I’m sorry you are also going through this. My bf was just sentenced to 6 yrs, he is been in only 3 months and I am a mess. He is in transition so no communication or visitation and is taking a toll on me. So I’m new too but you can pour your heart out here , they have been great and you won’t feel that alone. Hope it gets better for you!❤️

I sorry for you pain. You have to stay strong for him even when you dont want too. Don't lash out o. Him because it will bring a wedge in between yall. Have faith and courage that it will get easier. I know its easier said then done but you have too.
There were plenty of nights that I cried to myself because I had no one to talk to. At t ih me u would write in my journal, lash out at him and many other people then I went to church were I need to go back too and prayed like I never prayed before. When I walked I to the church I cried uncontrollably because God broke every chain of frustration, hatred, hurt, pain, you name it I had it. It will get better just pray, keep the faith, and always know that God give his toughest fights yo his strongest warriors. That's what keeps pushing me.
Remember this is just a test of your love and patience dont give up at the end if the tunnel will be a light and also a testimony.

Hey welcome.
Lash out on here we get it we have all been or going through this and we know what its like.
Keep writing to him those letter are a lifeline to both of you, lashing out at him doesn't help if anything its likely to upset him and don't forget those calls are record and listen to by co's.

It's never easy but we know how you feel because we're going through the same issues.
You'll be surprised how much stress lessens when you have someone else to vent to or even just journelling your pent up thoughts.
Hugs to you and welcome!

reinajesss, I can't imagine what you're going through. I can tell you that every kind word from you is like rain in a desert. I did 10 1/2 years and without some kind words from people that I cared about I don't know who I would be today. Each of you here fighting, trying, you are priceless. Never forget.

Ok take a deep breath! Lashing out happens.... The goal after that is to move on! As many have said comr vent to us, even lash out as us if it makes you feel better.... Weve all been there and most are still right there at the visitng table or phone next to you in spirit! We get it! Hopefully thatll help make those phone calls that much more positive. Cuz im sure he feels like he couldve made it better just like you do! But he should also understand that life and love especially without the person you share that with is difficult to endure. You will find your peace and you will find your outlets. Be patient and remember to always end each phone call with I Love you and never say goodbye! You will make it through this.... Positive vibes and thoughts your way!

Hi. I’m new here and just tryin to survive. He only has 58 days left but I’m freaking out and lashing out the closer it gets to him coming home. I feel the stress of him being on house arrest for 3 months and depending on me all over again. I work 2 jobs and take care of my kids and him. He understands but doesn’t. I don’t want to punish him for the past as I have a lot of triggers. I keep everything inside other than when I agrue w him ( very seldom). I worry bout his drinking when he comes home as that’s the whole reason he is in prison. We r both doing the time but he doesn’t see it like that. I’m left holding the shitty bag and he doesn’t know even tho I can move around and b free I’m still a prisoner

@lonelywife77 I feel your pain, even when my bf just starting serving 6 yrs I feel like I am being punished as well and doing his time out here. I’m sorry❤️

@lonelywife77 does he have any computer skls? There's a few sites where he can get virtual freelance jobs which may be easier to navigate than trying to work with the house arrest monitor depending on his actual charges and post release conditions. Also, if drinking was a big part of the reason he's there it's probably going to be a post release condition that he not drink. When those times come that he tries to convince you to bring it in the house, approach it from how much u missed him when he was gone and u want to do everything you can to keep him home. "I statements" are less likely to be seen as aggressive. They don't do much to facilitate their transitions back into the public world so maybe before he comes home you can have a conversation about what daily life is like and come to an understanding about how he fits into that.