Families of Prisoners Support Group
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Hello. I already know how we will be judged..as if I were an outsider, I would probably judge as well. Anyways..i can't find a support group yet of wives of sex offenders. If anyone knows amy please let me know. My husband was sentenced just a few weeks ago and got 15 months. I know how cliche this sounds, but he is innocent. I have zero doubt. A friend of my daughter accused him of touching her one night..I was awake and 5 feet away from this girl the whole night. My husband was outside with his friends. This girl has accused at least 5 other people of the same thing. I found out recently that she always says she is suicidal and even tried to get my daughter to pick a "suicide song" with her. My daughter is not like that at all..complete opposite. She is 14 years old and obviously has severe mental issues that MY family has to suffer for now for the rest of our lives. Obviously since he only got 15 months there was no evidence of anything. Zero evidence..just her lying and his word. I am so upset and s. Mad. My husband lost his job, i am disabled and cant work, lost our home our insurance..we lost everything. I am so angry and I know people are going to judge. I had to delete my fb yesterday due to threats against me. There were hundreds of threads from people I dont know..but live where we do and I can't even defend us. They wouldn't believe me if I tried. We don't know if he will have to register as a sex offender yet..but we are devestated. I have zero friends and my family is thousands of miles away. We are moving home in a few weeks..but I am in my mid 30's and have to take my child and live with my mom because we have nothing. I dont wish anything bad for this little girl...but she royally destroyed us...she needs so much help. This is beyond humiliating. Does anyone have advice or more support groups of this nature. I keep praying and I know we will be ok in the long run..but I have so much hurt and hate in my heart...and not to mention my poor daughter. Its heartbreaking. Please help
There is a Families of sex offender's group on DS to join, but many on this group are in that same situation too and there seems to be more people who post and comment and understand. Try us both.
It is sick how people will believe anything. They don't realize that any day it could be them or someone they care about or love being accused of the same thing.
I am still angry and I didn't know him when it all happened, but it still affects our life 23 years after the accusation was made.
Once they get charged, no one believes that they didn't do it even if they read the court transcripts about it. It's become a witch hunt, perpetrated by police and politicians with something to gain by going after them, even if they are innocent.
We met a man who had the same thing happen to him. His daughter started hanging out with a girl that was bad news. He forbid her to be with her, so the friend and his daughter both went to the police and said that he touched her. He got 8 years in prison, his family fell apart in every way, and then the daughter confessed that she lied and so did the friend. They tried to re cant their testimony but the court system was not willing to look at the case again and drop it all.
Since then his wife has left him, is bar hopping and the rest that goes with it, the kids don't go see him in prison, no one puts money on his canteen account or accepts his calls. WHY??? It was clear he didn't do it and they all should of been apologizing to him if they were involved, or if they were family or friends that had doubted him they should be down on their knees begging him to forgive them.
Every time a sex offender around here is released, they are in the newspapers and the news shows. It causes many problems that would never have to be in the first place.
I am sorry for what has happened to you and what you are going through and still will. It's hard on so many levels.
I think it's completely wrong to post their names and addresses unless the person truly was 100% guilty with irrefutable proof that he did it. That he IS truly a danger. Most cases they are not dangerous and didn't do anything.
Men can date someone and they may lie about their age. They don't find out til later how old they really were. The pare nts of the girl press charges when in reality their daughter was a willing participant in having sex with this guy. It sticks with him forever.
You said you don't know if he will have to register or not. I would think you could check it out somewhere within your state laws about it.
You will get through this somehow. I have been with my fiance 16 years, and dealt with many people, especially my family thinking he is a monster. I don't talk to the ones who are awful. I have weeded through the " friends" who really aren't friends anymore at all. You have to do that. Don't listen to what they say OR blast them about how you feel about their rudeness. Then LIVE, and love him. Work on making your life good again, together. And while he is in, don't let it get the best of you. I used to lay around doing nothing but cry and be depressed, then I realized that wasn't helping either of us. I got busy, fixed the house, moved, got a job, and just started acting like me again. They don't want us falling apart.
I will watch for you. Talk to me anytime. I have been on here for years.
There is a group on here called families of sex offenders its not a bad group and they dont judge the same as this group. People who do judge just dont get wht its like or how easy it is to just make up something to land someone in a a lot of hot water.
iam truly sorry tht this has happened to you. Hugs
Keep the faith, pray daily, & keep yourself busy. And remember, you've got friends on this site.