You are not alone. My fiancé was sentenced to 10 years fixed, 20 indeterminate. I have never known the love and forgiveness I am experiencing. I have never cried so much, written so many letters, spent so much money and prayed. I now get to have visits 2 days a week. I treasure it all! I have his clothes in bed when I sleep. I have his picture on my phone and around my apartment. I continue to be open to the new "normal". I remind myself frequently he and I are doing the best we can with what we have. I love him and take very good care of myself. Hang in there...it will get easier in some ways. Blessings!

My son was sentenced to 5 years back in August and it physically hurts as well. Decide early whether you can or will deal with the seperation; it is hard for anyone on the inside to start out with someone and then have them decide afterwards they can't deal with it. If it's something you're willing to endure, first find support for your self and then keep him encouraged! I send my son Jpay's, funny cards, 'I miss you cards', cards that people from church sign, etc. Above all stay in prayer for you both. Be encouraged and I pray for a hedge of protection be around him and you both cross paths with people who will consistently encourage you both.

I think anyone can do it as long as they make that decision and stick to it. I messaged you privately.. let me know if you got it and message me back. you got this... we can talk more though when you get online...

First things first decided if you can stick it out for that long thats something only you can decide.
What your feeling is i hate to say normal it hurts like hell for a while. Something that i found that helped other then being a crying mess was to write and write and then write some more think his first letter was almost 15 pages! Didn't think i could write so much!
Take his calls hearing there voices is a big help so set up a phone account or if he can a phone card asap.
Keep coming back to here this site and the people on it are a big help we have all been or are where you are right now so we do get it.
Hugs

Suchaslife is right about writing him! 15 pages SL, now I'm butt hurt since my longest was 11 lol!
I always have something to tell him, but we also write "in between" letters just to say I love you!!
I also want to piggyback on what Tea_Jay said about sending cards, make sure they're always in a white envelope or they'll get sent back. I sent one in light beige and it came back to me.
And yes definitely answer his calls even if you're mad, after talking to him you'll feel a lot better; I speak from lots of experience about this :) :) Super hugs!

Thank y'all