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He called tonight, seems as if 14 very-very long years have went right down the tubes???? Every second word out of his mouth was f---this, f---that, tried to use reverse on me like always, I'm so tired of him, I love him, always will, but if the ring does not come here to me, we are done. He stood very silent when I said to him "THIS TIME I DON"T NEED YOU TO DO OUR DIVORCE PAPERS", and he knows it, its not even worth waisting my time, or effort, he will not sign them, all he did was curse, bang the phone, and said don't send me another ring, its like whatever man, and Mery X-mas to his old ass to. When I think of how very hard I worked on his case, stuck by him, waited for him.Its been way to many parole hits, it was this year that really did us both in. It wasn't just a ring to me, our 2 hearts were bonded by that ring, so now lets see if he sends it?????????
Lynn
Lynn
I totally agree with the ring being a symbol of your hearts together as one. There are things that I look at that I cant change because it is something of Josh and I together. As it is I have his pillows where his body should be because I cant sleep there it is his part of the bed.
Unfortunately when we are away from a loved one it is the symbols that have to be held onto the strongest because that is all we have.
I know that you will make it through this and I know for one I will be here if you need to vent or cry or anything.
Shannon
I don't think the fact that he wanted to sell the ring meant that he was wanting to leave the relationship, I feel like that he may have become desperate and needed the money. I don't like the way he's responding to your indifference, but a lot of times we put too much weight on symbolism. I think the value of your marriage is within your hearts, not around the band. I don't know much about your relationship, but if you truly are in Love, you can't let something like this break you up. What if he had simply lost it, or if someone stole it? What would you have done then? I'm sure you would be upset, but there could be no blame placed.
You know its like whatever, I'll know soon enough, am I in love with him, "NO", I love him, but I'm not in love any longer, and with that being said, he knew we are on our last strings, why cut the last of the strings as he did. Its just been to many lies over the years.......