Families of Prisoners Support Group
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Well my daughter was in a holding facility but now in a correctional facility. I don't know the difference. I'm confused a lot but the important thing is I finally get to visit her this Saturday. First time in months. I have no idea what to expect. How long do the visits last? They said no touching so I can't even hug her? She's in the Lowell Correctional facility in Ocala. Three hour drive for my son and I. Any advice for a first timer like me?
Some metal detectors are so delicate you will have to take your jewelry off. Usually you have to take your shoes and jackets off.
Some prisons don't allow you to wear the colors the inmates wear. Oh boy, they might think you are one of them. Some prisons don't let you wear skirts. Unless they are to the knee or lower.
Some prisons are pretty nice and easy to get into . Some are tough.
You will get there, and be happy to see her, but sad she is there. That first time, you will probably cry when you leave here there. It does get easier in time.
We get to sit across a table from each other, hold hands, but not be touchy with each other. Most prisons you get to hug when you come in, and when you leave. This is in Wisconsin. In MN you sat across from them on a row of chairs. They were more rigid.
In Wisconsin we get out own table, not herded together like we were in MN.
These are just some of the things. Important that you read their website on the rules for visitors before you go.
If I could add just one thing, it would be make sure if you have any medical condition you let the prison know. I was in the federal system and you were denied visits if you had knee-replacement surgery or pins in any part of your body.
Also remember, if you cannot clear the metal detector ask to have a wand used, its very inoffensive and can pinpoint what is causing the problem.
If I could lend some advice, do not wear a skirt and if you have a problem ask to speak to the "duty officer." This is the person who can approve or correct any issues you have. In essence, don't expect it to be nice, comfortable or cozy, you're there to see your loved one. Enjoy them, talk earnestly and be ready to answer questions.
Thank you for visiting.
John Wannamaker
Know your daughter's identification number.
Take quarters for lockers and small bills for the vending machines.
Like the others said, dress modestly.
Don't have any residue of any kind of alcohol or drug on your clothing, shoes, or hands. When I visited the maximum prison, they ran a cloth and then some weird device over our hands & shoes and if it showed evidence of drugs, visits were suspended for a few months.
Make sure your car is legal and don't have anything in it that could cause trouble.
Last but not least, try not to take it personally if any or all of the guards treat you badly. They are not a friendly or helpful group of people.
as the others said be careful of the dress code stuff ive seen people who have had to change coz what they had on was to short or see though.......yes that did happen to one person!
Oh and tip if your worried about the drug stuff wash your money......hey you dont know where its been or who has handled it....that includes whats in your wallet. Yes i did get pulled aside one day coz of that.
hugs