Families of Prisoners Support Group

This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.

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Jenv24 09/27/2010

My hubby has been locked up for 4yrs now he has 2 left and i heard from my sis in law that is in a dif state then us that he thinks im cheating on him. im not and never would. i have no way to see him or talk to him on the phone. so how do i tell him im not and never would. he has been sayin that since hes got locked up and im getting sick of it.

deleted_user 09/27/2010

my man has been locked up for almost 4 years now too....and we have definitely had our share of drama from people runnin their mouths. write him a letter if that is the only way for you to communicate with him. what has worked best for me is we are on the same page about everything and we try not to let other people or rumors even come into our relationship.
maybe this may just be your sis n law running her mouth...who knows...but for me i think the best thing to do is just be open and honest with your man and then trust and believe what he tells you...because only you and him know the truth about yalls feelings and actions.

deleted_user 09/27/2010

I DEFINITELY AGREE w/ missinhim21!! I also am unable to visit my husband and we dont have the $$ for phonecalls, SO we simply rely on letters!! We've also gone through his insecurity of cheating BUT faith and trust is all we have and to Trust in GOD! Pray for god to put his heart and brain at ease... Keep your chin up!

deleted_user 09/27/2010

letters are really great too...they got lost in this world of technology....but when thats all you got...i know that i'll be waiting all day to check that mail box!!!:-) they are really good for expressing, and really geting out what you want to say...i feel like me and my man have grown so much closer over the years just by writing (i am still hoping and praying that I will finally get to visit him this christmas and he will finally get to meet our daughter in person!!!)
agree with MissMine....just gota keep ur head up and stay strong!

Jenv24 09/28/2010

I wrote him a letter yesterday, havent heard from him since the 15th, and when he gets accusing me of cheating he wont write me or write back for months, then i worry sick bout him. Im at the end of my rope

deleted_user 09/28/2010

just have faith in your man and in yalls relationship. if the love is there and its real then you should have no worries....the situation is a hard one to be in...but i've found that even when there are any negative feelings or thoughts or issues that occur, with time they pass and that love is still there and nothing can make that go away. every struggle and obstectacle yall make is through will make you that much stronger. sounds like you know how he deals so i'm sure he'll come around, best thing is just to stay strong and keep your faith in yalls relationship and keep a positive outlook.

deleted_user 10/13/2010

Remember they have plenty of time to think and imagine the worst while they are down. write him letters confirming your love for him. He needs to be communicating this to you not others. and i wouldn't mention what you have heard from the sis in law.Personally she needs to mind her own business. If he doesn't belive you just be patient and things will eventually be worked out when he comes home if it's meant to be.

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