That is a tough place to be in. I almost reported my own sister many years ago for the same things but in her situation the ahole she was with was abusive and even though he worked she wasnt married to him and he didnt pay for anything. However I dont think it is right that they are all in this house and getting by just fine without the welfare help. There are so many out there that really need the help but cant get it because they are just outside of the guidelines. I get foodstamps and right now neither Josh or myself is working and I cant wait until the day that I dont have to worry about it anymore because we are financially in a place we are no longer in need.

I wish I could say do it or dont do it but like I said it is a hard spot to be in.

I will say that I also receive food stamps and medicaid for my family. I have been unemployed since May, with that said I would turn them in. In fact I have done this in the past. I would do this because there are a lot of people out there that could use the help but can't get it because there is not enough funds. You have to do what you feel is the right thing to do.

This is one of those issues that really gets to me....I myself am on food stamps and awaiting medicaid...but, I get hardly anything because I'm single and have no kids...I think its really unfair when women have kids and don't even try to work, because they know they can get all kinds of stuff...especially in the situation you are talking about where she has a man who can support her and they are just fine...

I totally understand that the kids need to be taken care of...and I'm fine with that...but there are too many people that abuse the system which makes it worse for those that are truly in need.

like Pam...I've been unemployed since last year (in July) and haven't been able to find any work. I was only getting $14/month in food stamps all because I was getting unemployment (which was less than half of what I had been making and wasn't even enough to cover all my monthly bills)...but, I had friends in the past that were on unemployment, but because they had kids, they got like $300 in food stamps...

and as far as the medicaid...its been 4 months since I applied, and I have to go through all kinds of hoops to even be considered for medicaid...all because the system has been abused too much...and now my health is really suffering for it...I'm supposed to be on medication and haven't been able to get it for the past 6 months...

I think if I knew someone was abusing the system, I would turn them in if I knew they were really not in need of any of the help...and from what you've said, she would be taken care of just fine...her and the baby.

This is a tough subject; I am kind of in a place like sullengirljen. I am considered single, with no children and do not qualify for any assistance of any kind. Payday should be a good day, but it's not because I work to stinkin hard to be this stinkin broke. I pay my ex $600. a month in child support, and although I never see that money, it is considered my income and is taken into consideration whenever I've tried to get help whether it be subsidized housing, medical or anything, so I've quit trying. There are a lot of people who have an attitude of entitlement just because they "qualify", I see it all the time and it makes me sick. Once when I was turned down for Medicaid, I told the caseworker, "so if I go get knocked up next week, you'll take care of everything?" needless to say, she didn't know what to say, because she knows how it works. It's like a reward system, plus it encourages people to not get married because then the husbands income would disqualify the family for benefits. I don't know how your ex's family is getting away with this unless he's working under the table, but they're just one of thousands jumping on the same bandwagon. Don't know what to tell you to do; the welfare system needs some drastic reformation, same as the prison system and probably a lot of other systems I'm not familiar with. WOW! I sure rambled didn't I? I work in a pharmacy and deal with these "entitled" people every day, some are appreciative for the help and really need it, and some use the ER as their primary physician (you dont need an appointment and its still free) and if their prescription that they went to the ER to get cost them a dollar, they don't want it and they'll tell you, "it's supposed to be free!", well no it's not supposed to be free! Your ins. (Medicaid) kicked out the co-pay after they paid $170.of it. And Medicaid is one of the only insurance plans that will pay the exuberantly higher price for brand name drugs (at the tax payers' expense) where most insurances won't. OOPS, just when you thought I was done, hah? Good luck with your decision. It probably wont change anything, and it wont make anyone else more qualified. But the states have to do something, because theyre running out of money taking care of everyone.

NOT A EASY DECISION, BUT I KEEP THINKING WHAT DO I GAIN???? NOTHING REALLY, AND I'M NOT ONE REALLY A PERSON TO BE VENDICTIVE, IT JUST MAKES ME SO ANGRY. I JUST DON'T KNOW BUT THANK YOU FOR YOUR RESPONCES.

this situation makes me so grumpy b/c i'm one of the people who make "too much money" to get any help with childcare expenses or food. i think last time i tried, i made $20 too much per month. i know they have to draw that line somewhere, but damn, that $20 isn't enough for groceries, ya know? now i'm going off, my point was, maybe you shouldn't be asking yourself what you would gain from reporting this. you don't have to gain anything, it's the law and she's breaking it.