Families of Prisoners Support Group
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My fiance watched a few guys in his prison with cancer. He watched one get worse and worse, and taken to the hospital many times. I think if they have access to adequate hospital care, and medical care in the prison, they will keep them there, if they are there on a serious charge. If it is a mild charge, they may become more lenient.
It really hit my fiance hard watching these guys with cancer and other serious illnesses in there. It made him cry, and THINK. He said he didn't want to die in there, so he doesn't want to ever mess up to go back. Then he had a heart attack in his unit. He sat and cried like a baby that he didn't want to die alone. They didn't call me and tell me. They would not have let me go see him in the hospital. What they do is send him to a maximum prison infirmary when they have something serious, to take care of them. Luckily, his was a mild heart attack, and he survived. But it changed him.
I don't mean to upset you worse, but from what he's seen in WI, there is not much mercy from judges or anyone no matter what. BUT I would contact his lawyer and see. Maybe whatever state you are in, is different. Extenuating circumstances might lessen his sentence. After all, it is very expensive for them to pay the costs of his medical care.
One thing to watch closely is how good is his care. If he is NOT getting the care he needs, that is illegal under some statute in the Constitution. They have to give adequate care, because the prisoner is not able to get it on his own. If they don't you have a right to file a claim. This also could help your case towards leniency. Can't remember if it's the fourth or eighth amendment. Worth reading up on. I took Criminal Justice classes last year, but some of the specifics on that, I forgot.
My D is sick of seeing guys die in there.
No, everyone in prison is NOT bad, they may have made a mistake, or did nothing and got accused anyway. Yes there are some that are bad, but I would surmise that most are everyday people who got a bad break, made a bad choice, or had an addiction that caused a problem. I know that my fiance was not supposed to drink. He was on probation. He did get pulled over, and got a .04 alcohol content which is not legally drunk. But when you are on probation, it is still illegal. He took his charges as punishment with grace and style. He didn't complain even though the sentencing was very harsh. Once you choose to do something that is a risk, you put yourself in jeopardy of getting charges that are unfair.
Whether they are truly guilty, somewhat guilty, or not guilty at all, they are still human beings. They all have people that love them, and don't want people looking down on them. It is funny now, a month and a week after he's been released that he is no longer an " inmate". He is HUMAN again, as he puts it. No one on the street, or Walmart looks at him and sees a bad person. But in prison, they put a uniform on them, don't call them by their first names, put a number on them, and they become that number, and an INMATE.
I am not coming down on you at all for stating what you did cmorton, but I think as you want your guy to be respected and not treated unfairly, you have to remember that all the rest of the people on here want the same thing for the people they love in prison.
And, for your guy to survive all this, he needs to associate with someone in there, just to keep sane and not depressed. They do find some guys that they have things in common with, and can bond with, while in there. It is vital to their survival. And they need friends to look out for them. It doesn't mean a permanent life connection, it just keeps them from going nuts in there, or going into a deep depression. Just telling you what I have heard from years of having a son and fiance in prison off and on.
And I do know what its like to say something and people don't get what you meant. We aren't coming down on you at all. We do care about you.