You can always write about your feelings. Trust me there's no such thing as writing too much. Also I like to send cards, not just at holidays but just because. There are tons of them that express all our feelings/emotions, just always remember only white envelopes or they'll send it back. I don't really have IRL friends, however there are a bunch of great people on here :) I met my "bestie" on here and thank goodness because there were days I just wanted to throw in the towel! I sometimes wish I could tell folks about us but I don't want to hear all the negativity of me being with him.

Maybe try journaling about your feelings or write him a letter about it.

I write and email all the time but I also write "to him" in a journal that we have agreed will be a weekend in bed reading project when he comes home. He also writes me in a journal. I'm like you, I don't have a lot of friends and only a couple of family members that support our relationship. So I'm very thankful for all of you on here! And my guy is thankful for y'all too. He always says he's glad I have support.

I agree with what everyone has said on here, writing him letters is the best thing you can do! For example yesterday i was feeling really emotional so i just started writing and by the end of it i felt so much better, even though i know he won't get to read it for a few days there is comfort in knowing that he will be able to at least read it soon and then will be able to write me back. Im like you i don't have many friends in irl either, mainly because people don't understand the situation so coming on here helps when i need to talk to people that can understand the pain i am feeling. Also if there is anything you really want to say on the phone you can always write stuff down through out the day, so that way next time he does call you will have that list and can remember any important stuff you wanted to share on the phone

Thank you everyone so much. I do write to him a lot. I'm a bit of a poem writer so I had started a journal to give him. Poems and thoughts about my love for him and heartache. And I do get to talk to him daily. I guess as I think about it it's more like a need for comfort in the moment. Not so much the good stuff but the bad. I can wait with excitement to tell him good stuff. But it's the bad or difficult days after work, I'm an RN, when I find myself so emotional and full of anxiety ( I suffer from anxiety ) And I know I'll have to wait 6 hours or so before I can talk to him. His touch and voice is what relieved the stress and anxiety before. It takes longer but now simply his voice relieves the anxiety and helps me cope with difficult situations at work. It's 6 hours of anxiety that's eating at me. And that's 6 hours that I should be sleeping. I work night shift. 12 hours. Typically with 5 hours of sleep between shifts. I feel like I'm whining but I just want to feel normal again. Instead of coming home and crawling into his arms where he holds me and tells me it's ok --where the sadness and anxiety melts away--I come home to an empty cold house with just me and my ridiculous emotions. Maybe venting to you guys is all I needed. I'm feeling a bit better now. I don't want him to know how difficult of a time I'm having with all this.

Girl don't think you are whining what you are feeling is totally normal. We all hate coming home to a house without are guys or not being able to pick up the phone and talk to them whenever we need their help. We all miss them or just miss having "normal" in our life. What you are feeling is exactly how I feel too, I hate not having him to talk to when I need it but I have just found ways to cope with that anxiety or those negative emotions. It sounds like you have a time period where you know that anxiety will come, I think since you know that period happens often it would be a good idea to try and "plan" things during that time. I don't mean you need to have plans with anyone but do things like I'm going to read this book at such time or watch this show at this time. I have found just simpliy planing a time to read, shower, watch somthing etc helps me get through those times because I feel I can make it more easily knowing I have little things planned. It makes the time a lot easier to cope with.

Agreeing with everyone else. Writing helps. I literally will write letters everyday and maybe only send 3 or so. I have the same issue I work 12 hr overnights (emt) and I have days where I come home and just wanna hear his voice and hear him tell me it's ok. And when he calls he does but the waiting game can make it worse. I have a few friends but the friends I thought would understand don't and I don't wanna tell them everything. Honestly this group does help though just knowing that you're not the only one in the world eases the pain

I did not remember even joining this group. I wish I could give a good answer but it has been too long now. My husband died 3 years ago in April but in the 3 years before that while he was incarcerated, he was put in a state hospital for 2 1/2 of those years. He had Alzheimers and therefore not competent for trial. I remember wanting to talk to him. At least when he got out of solitary and was put in the state hospital , I could call him. for 8 months prior , there was no phone contact b/c he did not know how to dial a phone anymore. It really gets better, and yes , writing helps. Because you don't have friends, does not mean you won't at some point. I was like that...........it was my husband's dog (see photo) that, after he got arrested , I began taking to dog park and I met so many good friends that way and they are my huge support group now. Dogs are a great conversation starter anyway !

I feel the same way in my relationship. If something good or bad happened he was the one I would call immediately. Now when I'm stressed or having a bad day I have no one to talk too.

So I've been keeping a journal as suggested and saying a prayer Lisa taught me and it's helping. Talking to Lisa daily is helping a lot. The heartache is the same but it's a little more bearable.

I have had such a terrible time with my boyfriends incarceration. He is in transport for parole violation. Going to one prison to another. There are nights when I don't sleep . ..my anxiety is through the roof. He always finds a way to send me a message, I miss him. Sometimes I wonder if we will make it. I sometimes feel like I should be doing something . .but what? I guess I have to let the process take its course . When I don't hear from him I panic - worrying something happened. My heart hurts. I hope this nightmare ends soon.

Chynna I completely understand. I didn't hear from my bf for 2 days. Very unlike him. He calls every day. My mind went to all kinds of places. I was going insane. So after work I drove 6 hours to go see him and make sure he was ok. I also feel like there is something else I should be doing. All the time I feel like I'm failing him. Especially when he becomes depressed. Just remember you are not alone in these thoughts and feelings. We are here for you. Take one day at a time. And when that's too hard take one hour at a time. Remember to breathe and as it was suggested to me by many keep a journal. It has been helping me tremendously.