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I have been so darn numb since he ask me if he could sell our wedding band, don't know if I'm more hurt, angry, or confused? And come to think of it, his alibi witness who I just spoke to reminded me that he sent the pro-bono attorney $100.00, cause she does a abundance of work on his parole issues. When I ask him where did you get the money from, he said he saved it, I don't believe him. I think he already sold the ring cause I don't get to see him, but he knows I want to try to go next month. MY QUESTION IS????? How many of you would ask for the wedding band back?????????????????????? I want to see if he produces my ring, yes, my ring, I paid for the rings. Its not the money, its the SENTIMENTAL VALUE................This is something I don't think I can forgive? I know him, if he knows I'm coming he will ask the person he sold it to,,,to give it to him for a day of my visit, am I so wrong for wanting the ring back, I'm confused on this one.
jody0385
I understand the anger and frustration over the ring issue, but really think about it... If he needed that money were you able to give it to him? Would he have asked for the money knowing you are struggling already with the calls and other bills we have day to day? If not then I would let it go... I mean a ring is just a material thing.. It's just a SYMBOL of the love, but it's not THE LOVE right? If you loved him before the ring thing then you should try to let it go. Forgive him and move past it. If you can't move past it then maybe it's a bigger issue you're dealing with and maybe you don't realise it. I think you have had enough time to be mad about it... I do understand it.. But it's just a ring. If you trust your husband, then you should be able to trust that he must have had a good reason to ask or to do it already. I think you need to take time alone, and really give this some terribly deep thought before reacting any further. Don't STEW over it. But really think it through. Think about your love for him and then think if the ring is that important. Only you can answer that.
deleted_user
Yes, I would ask him to produce the ring so that I could visually see it. If he has the opportunity to "save" money then his wedding ring should have never been considered as an item to pawn. I think the answer really lies in values here - what do you value? Do you value your vows and the symbol of the ring? I would personally be livid if I were asked permission to do this as that would speak volumes to me. Yes, it may be a piece of metal but that metal may be the only thing that each of you have to "symbolize" your love and commitment to one another while he is incarcerated.
Mamabear59
I am going to ask him, its not just a ring to me, he knew my band was stolen, that hurt me deeply enough, so I went on line and bought 2 very-very cheapo's, one to were on a necklace cause I don't see him, one to place back on my finger, and he knew this. I received a beautiful letter from him today but nothing about the ring, the only way I can forgive him is if he tells me it was to help me, and maybe a little to spare for the boys, a gift from him. I'll wait untill he calls before I make up my mind, heart, and whole being. That is a simble of our love, not just a ring to me.............:(
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