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Always fighting

Make2216
Make2216

The past few day it feels like whenever he calls we are fighting. Is this normal.  He is usually really supportive and kind but I got my nose pierced like I said I would and he keeps bringing it up to start a fight 

gregsbaby
gregsbaby
I swear men have pms sometimes :P Mine had it too last letter, so much so I haven't sent a weekly letter! He's usually not like that :O So in answer to your question IMHO, is unfortunately yes, not because they're mad at us per se, just the situation they're in. I can only imagine the stuff they go through in there all day. And with so many different people with different personalities/temperaments sometimes it shows in the form of fussing/fighting :(

Congrats on the piercing!! I want a wrist tattoo but I'm still too chicken to go lol!
Make2216
Make2216
Thanks. You should get it my tattoo really didn't hurt it tickled like crazy haha. And yeah he said his sink was leaking and there have been a ton of fights so maybe it's just rubbing off on him
eyedeekay
eyedeekay
I really do believe it is normal to have this happen, after all even if your man was home it is natural to have fights occur. Its apart of any relationship. The problem would be if it started happening all the time or he started blaming you for things, not apologizing ect. But we have to remember they are under alot of pressure in there and sometimes they are going to have bad days. They are enduring a lot of things that aren't normal and are surrounded by 40+ men 24/7.... it can be hell. But like i said this isn't an excuse to start fights all the time, if it keeps happening i would talk to him about it. I have had my boyfriend snap on me a few times but he always called back and apologized. and every time he was mad it had nothing to do with me, just his environment. Be patient but also don't let it become regular thing.
Suchaslife
Suchaslife
Miine used to get frustrated at the system i knew it was at the system but he never ever took it out on me we talked about it instead of fighting.
Sit down write him a letter ask him what the problem with the noise piercing it might help....a relationship are about give an take he cant have it all his way ya gotta work it out .prison relationships have close to the same chance of making it as to relationships on the outside but you got work at it.