Families of Prisoners Support Group
This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.
My boyfriend took a plea deal for 25 years without parole for rape of a minor. Right now he is in prison waiting to be shipped to where he will serve his sentence.
I have had cried every night since he took the plea bargain two months ago. I am not able to visit him considering I am not family, he has tried calling several times and every time the call will not go through. We have exchanged letters which is our only source of contact right now.
How do you deal with such a thing like this? Everyone is unsupportive but my mom who is the only one who understands how I can still love him though he has these charges on him. I have tried to tell myself "this is not right, just let him go" but my heart just can't do that. I love this man with everything inside of me and something just keeps telling me he is the one even though out situation is a total mess right now. I go though my day acting as if nothing is wrong, then when I am alone at night I do nothing but cry until I can't cry anymore. Please, anyone give me some advice,
I have had cried every night since he took the plea bargain two months ago. I am not able to visit him considering I am not family, he has tried calling several times and every time the call will not go through. We have exchanged letters which is our only source of contact right now.
How do you deal with such a thing like this? Everyone is unsupportive but my mom who is the only one who understands how I can still love him though he has these charges on him. I have tried to tell myself "this is not right, just let him go" but my heart just can't do that. I love this man with everything inside of me and something just keeps telling me he is the one even though out situation is a total mess right now. I go though my day acting as if nothing is wrong, then when I am alone at night I do nothing but cry until I can't cry anymore. Please, anyone give me some advice,
As far as "this is not right, just let him go" I think each of us who's going through as told ourselves this a time or two. For me I was married for 3 1/2 years but I still was in love with my guy and he was with me as well and he'd write at least 4 times a year back then. My husband has passed away and my guy are together again, better than ever! He's in for at least 10 years if not a bit more but I'm not going no where.
It's okay to cry and you're going to do it alot, just try to keep yourself busy. Do you have kid (s) , hobbies, anything to take your mind away from what's going on for awhile.
Try to keep your head up! Think of good times you guys had and think about when he comes how you guys will reshape your lives. The heart wants what the heart wants even if it's not "right." For you it's right and that's all that matters :)
I would call the prison and ask if he has to put you on a call list or not. If not, then call the company that the prison uses. They will help you. They want out money after all.
To those who tell you that you shouldn't love them. NO ONE can tell another person to not love or love someone. That happens only within the person. Only you know why you love him. It doesn 't matter what anyone else thinks. You know him, the man he is to you. The rest doesn't matter.