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thank you for answering my post ,,, hello there i am so new to this and i need help in understanding how to cope with the patience, day to day going on without him. this a new chapter in my like and i am so full of hope and anticipation but i have a issue with paitience,,,,

One of the things that I've learned about patience is that one cannot insist on its presence. It's not something that we can pull out of our pockets when we need it. I've learned that it's an elemental change that becomes a part of our being over time as a result of how we respond to the pressures in our lives and how we see things. It grows into us and becomes a part of us and then is evident to others around us, sometimes to our great surprise.

You will have to decide which fights you will enter into and which fights you will let pass you by. There is not enough time or money or energy or healing available to you to become engaged in every struggle that comes along. I don't mean that you shouldn't explore and make discoveries about your new circumstances -- you should learn about it all, but you cannot fight it all.

As you come up against people and procedures that you don't understand or that you don't trust or that you respond to with fear and disgust, you must look deeper into the situation and learn about it. The more you find out about it, the easier it will be to decide what to do and how to do it, and then to evaluate whether you should continue your present course of action or make a change.

That's where this community can help. We represent a lot of sorrow and pain and disappointment and grief. We also represent a lot of change and encouragement and hope and joy. Bring us your stories and let us tell you our stories; let us tell you about our stumbles and our accomplishments. Take what you need and see if it fits your circumstances. If it fits, and it works, come back and tell us. If it doesn't work, come back and let's do some brainstorming.

Our family here contains people who are visionaries, pray-ers, researchers, and healers. We help each other get on and keep on, and one day you'll realize that you're not the same person you were when you first came here.

You can become a person of peace and patience, but it doesn't come as a result of your concentrated effort, it comes as a result of not giving up and learning how to bend instead of break. I know this all sounds abstract and philosophical, but these qualities aren't so much tools that you can pick up and wield consciously, they are qualities that become a part of who you are.

Love and friendship!

can you help me navigate around so i can see the answers . and thank you i am in a new relationship with a man that is in prison and we have time to learn and get to know each other , the way we found each other was a God thing, cant explained it it just happened and he has my heart and he tell me the same, it is just very hard to comprehend how this all happened
pambi

when you add a comment, there is a box you can check located at the bottom right hand corner of the comment box. You will be emailed when someone adds a comment to your question. Not a whole lot of navigation required. Since you are posting, I will assume you have figured out the rest.
Click on a subject that appears on the discussion list to read what others have written. Trial and error. With practice you will get the hang of it.

Sometimes you just know in your heart that it is right. Then go with it and see what happens, regardless of what anyone else says.