I was depressed and just like you reminds me of a Tanya Tucker song without you, what do I do with me ? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d7ElWe3ccoE if you want to hear the song it's sad but kinda true but you need to go on with your life it's easier said than done believe me if you do his time with him it will end up destroying you and the relationship...even if you go out once a week do something for yourself you will need that...

this is kinda dumb I know but I would eat very little because I know the meals they eat and I would feel bad if I went out to eat but really what got me out of a depression I was in I went to a concert and that knock my out of my depression because one of the singers actually brother was/still in prison and one of the songs he sang was actually about his brother I didn't realize it til I got home who he was I was there for another band but go out and do stuff..weather it just going shopping,to movies,get hair done do something for you

I agree with brandnew...it helps to go out and do things even if its just a coffee or a bit of shopping it really can help the other thing is it gives you something to write to him about.
Hang in there and hugs.

They are right. It won't go any faster if you sit there and cry. You have to accept the fact that for awhile there will be sad times, you will miss him awful, but if you get out, do something, anything, it CAN help. I know, I know... you think of him no matter where you are, or what you are doing. BUT you have to start little by little finding something that distracts you. It will put you into a deep depression if you don't and then you will be useless for him or anyone who depends on you. We are all depended on, and sometimes that's a pain in the ass, and sometimes being needed helps us get through our own problems.

OMG Brandnewa... I could not listen to that song... toooooo sad. Beautiful, but sad. Yep, I did the not going places because he couldn't, not eating out because he got crap for food. It doesn't do them any good, but we feel the need to deprive ourselves too. They don't want that. They want us to have somewhat of a normal life, they need us strong. We can be, just gotta work on it day by day. I DID IT, and I was the queen of crying. And I survived the 3 years 2 months and I think 19 days. And now he is out, and it is good finally. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Right now, it just doesn't feel like it for you.

The first time he was in prison I was still in school. I was an art major and had a part time job. I would put all my pain and happiness and love into my work both in school and at my job. The results were extraordinary. I was the best student in my studio and I kept a strict routine with daily letters, taking time for his phone calls, etc. Keeping yourself busy buries the pain and brings out something good in your heart. I always told myself that when he got out I could share all this with him and when I did it blew him away. Even now when I share baby shopping and the registry I put together he is uplifted and that uplifts me and motivates me to keep pushing onward.

I wish I had your strength. I feel like this has taken over who I am and I no longer have interest in anything I used to do. I am even failing in school studies. Something I have tried long to achieve... I'm trying my best to get myself back into things but I still have no interest in any of it...