Oh boy... I can hear your frustration in your post. I guess all you can do at this point is keep sending him letters, keep hounding him to at least write back to you. You know he gets those. OMG I would write to him if I knew how and tell him to stop this crap and stop making you so upset and call or write to you. BUY DAMN PENS if necessary, but I think they give them a pencil at least. Mine always had that. I swear I am going to enlist my fiance to be a consultant to everyone on here.

I know its different from state to state, but some things are pretty standard.

Has ANYONE heard from him at all??? Oh send me a private message and I WILL write to him and tell him to get off his butt and write to you or something. He does not understand how awful this is for the women waiting at home. Right now he may be punishing himself, or feeling sorry for himself. They do do that you know. They have to get accustomed to the idea of where they are, why they are there, and then start learning how the game is played there, to survive. It is a lot to take, and handle.

I don't know that there is anyone you can call for answers. I would be screaming at him in letters. I did that by writing in HUGE capital letters, so he got the point I was yelling. You tell him if he loves you to find a damn way to talk with you, or write to you. End of subject, tell him.

HAHA I am mad at him for you, and I don't know him.

Totally agreeing with ihate....now iam ticked at him too....send him a letter tell him you need to hear from him and tell him to use the bloody money to get a pen!! Don't put any paper or envelop in this letter....tell him to get them too.!!
Uuuuggg I wanna yell at him too now!

He means well. He really does... he's just so unrealistic at times. He promised he would write. It has been 8 days... I may be being too persistent.. I can't find out any information and his family doesn't talk to me ... (there's a story why, if you want details, message and ask) I don't know how this all works... mailing stuff seeems to take forever. Yes, he is prone to falling inside his troubles and not talking to others... that is what I'm afraid he may be doing... Maybe its too soon. I don't know but I can't wait anymore.. I have to know he is ok from his mouth.. I have to hear from him... On the plus side.. I have his computer and belongings at my house so he kinda has to talk to me at some point if or when he gets out... however, that's not helping me now... I am not a patient person. I just need to know he is ok...

Bombarded the place with postcards tell him you really need to hear from him and that you have set up a phone thingy for him and have put money on.
That not the easysit of places to workout how they run

Mine fiance has been in prison since last Thursday and I just heard from him today. He's been on lockdown until about 3 hours ago. I know how you feel. Don't always assume head ignoring you. He really may not be able to call. Mine couldn't order store or anything as long as he was on lockdown. Ita hard not hearing from him I know. That was the longest 6 days of you life not knowing anything and thy's guards and people at the prison are no help what's so ever. Just hang in there.

Thanks for the information ilovechad... It's kinda helpful. I don't think he has paper or pens to write me so he hasn't... I'm trying to be patient but it gets harder to do that day by day... I feel so much and love him so much that it brings me to new tears when I talk about him or think about him... It just hurts this whole situation...

I like the bombard the place with postcards idea... I think I may have to just try that... at least its a fast way of getting information to him

I know what you mean. I've been a wreck, all the crazy thoughts that go thru your mind doesn't help either. I was so glad when he called. And the prison told me I could send him paper, envolpes and stamps with the lettters I mailed, but he didn't have a pen until today. But don't send paper and stuff unless they tell you that you can, bc they could take away his mail privliages. Where is yours at, if you don't mind me asking? They also told me mine was ok but he was on lockdown bc they thought he was sucidal, so I really don't believe them when they say they are ok. I mean how do they really know?

Exactly... they don't k now if he is ok. they never even went to check... I am no longer sending paper or envelopes.. I was told they might just send it back to me... that'll suck! I'm sending another one tomorrow.. I do keep thinking of all the terrible things that others could do to him.. I just want him home with me... so I can know that he's alright.. .I mean my guy can fight but he shouldn't have to.. .and being in there has got to have him feeling upset.. My guy is in Connecticut... he didn't do anything that should warrant his arrest in thee... the charges are bogus... it was just a heated argument with his kids' mom that got out of hand... it just makes me so mad that he finally moved in with me this summer and now he is locked up... ugh...

Mines in Alabama, we have lived together for the past 15 months. I know it's hard. We was best friends for 5 years before we ever got together and that makes it way worse. I've never went longer than a day without talking to him in the past 6 years. Now we have a little girl on the way and all this happens. If I didn't already have a 2 year old little boy and a job that I really need I would stay in bed and cry all day. I have to make myself get out of bed. You can message me if you ever need to talk.

Today was hard... I had to force myself to get out of bed... I wanted to just lay there and cry.. Tears aren't going to pay the bills... or help him in any way... I can't deal with not hearing from him.. This is the longest we've ever gone without talking to each other... Its tearing me up inside and I can't do anything about it... All I can is write him and hope that he is ok... I am so sad today... i just want to cry and cry and cry....

I hope you have heard from him and you feel better. If it really is an "old fashioned, I want to pay because I'm the man thing," then tell him you will make an accounting of every penny you spend and he can pay you back when he gets out. That way he saves his pride, and it saves your sanity.

Yes mrswright, he has written one letter and one other letter was lost in the mail. that was the letter that had the application for visiting. He said he'd send another when he gets supplies this week. It just is so worrisome waiting...