Oh Honey,
I am at work with tears running down my face,your words our my worst fear of what my daughter I hope hasnt keep inside & felt, I have often thought about this & hoped these are not her feeling but I can see in her eyes & feel in my heart she does feel this way.
Asa mothers I am not going to lie it hurts so bad but it would be so much worse if we didnt have you at all.Hurting yourself will only hurt your mom more.I will be here to talk if you need me honey.

Lisa

hi, PLease go to pflag. They will help, try to find a sponser, a women, like al-anon.. They will help.

If they do not have that , suggest it..

TC Hugs

I wish I could open my arms and give you a hug honey. I am a mom and I cannot understand why another mother would shun or turn away their child. There is nothing my child could say that would make me push them away. a mother loves no matter what comes. Please do not hurt yourself because she could not see you for the wonderful person you are. Do not let her actions diminish you. You were brave to admit who you are, do not be ashamed of who you are. never feel that you have to apologize for being you. as a mother I am happy my children have discovered who they are and what makes them happy. a mother cheers their child through life and is there to make things better, not to tear them down. just as the saying goes for men, " anyone can be a dad but it takes someone special to be a dad, the same goes for mothers-- a mother is love, be it from a biological one or a close freind. Be brave in who you are and dont let someone else judge you. even though it is your mother who you seek approval. There are us mom's out there who would love to have a child who is secure in who they are and are brave enough to admit it. I cannot say that your mother will change and everything will be ok but what I can say is to surround yourself with people who support you and will love you for being yourself. and please honey go talk to someone about the cutting. I just wish I could give you a big hug and let you know that not all mothers are that way....
-Elizabeth

I am so sad for you, but I am also scared. My son is gay and I know that he struggled with some of the same feelings that you are having. In middle school he used to cut himself. He also started drinking and ultimately moved on to drugs. Now he's addicted to opiates. When you say that you are cutting yourself and thinking of overdosing, I see you going down that same path and, trust me, you don't want to go there. I wish he could have understood that we love him whether he is gay or not. We just want him to be safe and happy.

You are saying that being a lesbian is your fault and something that you did. First, there is nothing "wrong" with being a lesbian. What's "wrong" is not accepting a person for who they are, the way God made them, especially your own child. All of this pain is not your fault. It is the fault of the people who don't accept you. Put this burden squarely where it belongs. Don't take it on yourself. You have done nothing wrong and you have suffered way too much for the intolerance of other people.

As a mother, I can tell you that we all have dreams for our children, but most do not come true. As grown-ups, we have to learn to live with that and adjust our expectations. Your mother may have wanted you to find a man and have babies, but that might not have happened even if you were straight.

My best friend's daughter married a man and was very unhappy. Two years ago she divorced her husband and moved in with the love of her life--another woman. Now she's trying to get pregnant through artificial insemination. So, my friend will finally have the grandchildren she always wanted. The only difference is that the child will have two mothers instead of a mother and a father.

I have another friend who was married for a long time and had two children. They ultimately divorced and he's been with his partner, a man, for the past 15 years, raising the children they both had before they got together.

Times are changing and the day will come soon when you will be able to marry the person of your choice and I bet that your mother will come around. You may even give her those grandchildren she dreamed of.

Meanwhile, please do not cut yourself or use drugs or alcohol.

I want to say as a mom that I'm so sorry for what you've had to go through. I hope things are better for you soon. Your story sounds so familiar to me and I want you to know that sometimes misunderstandings occur and then are straightened out. It happened to me and everything turned out great. I have a loving and wonderful relationship with my daughter. We're able to talk about anything together now and for that I thank God. I give you love and hugs and prayers and hope you have an understanding mum that you can talk things over with and who treats you as a "person" which you are. Thank you for the insight which I wouldn't have known before.

When I found this topic my heart started to beat like crazy - finally! :) I'm an almost-30 lesbian with transgender tendencies, feeling and wishing myself to live as a man, after two years of engagement and found that my mother is disgusted by me, my lesbianism, my honesty, my weirdness, whatever. (The other thing I didn't even had the courage to tell her, as whenever I simply mention my attraction to women, in any form, she backoffs, face strained in shock.) We've always had a shaky and rather weak relation as mother and daughter as she hasn't really grown up. (Meanwhile my father whom I lost early was everything to me and he was a quite conscious parent before his depression.)
Just like Nemesis, I spent many evenings crying on the floor of my old room and/or trying not to kill myself... but now I'm here and if there's any mom out there who'd like to give me a hug - please do :)
Being honest, I don't even really know what it's like to have a mother as my own mom rather acted like my sister or a friend while I was growing up and still does so... *sighs*

Thank you All for being in this world!
*flowers*