Families & Friends of Gays & Lesbians Support Group
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We were driving to school and she said mom I have something to tell you but I dont want to make a big deal of it or talk about it. I said okay what is it. She said I think I like girls and I think I have a crush on someone in another class. I must admit I was shocked. But I didn't react that way. I simply told her that if she likes girls its okay I will love and support her no matter what. So what im wondering is should I bring this topic up to her? Id like to get her in a teen support group so she can meet other kids that feel the same way. I just dont want to push to hard and then she doesn't talk to me. Any advice?
I told her she was brave for telling me, and we shared a big long hug. (I felt her heart was racing)
I let a day pass. I wanted to talk with her about it more, and I had so many questions. I called and spoke to a licensed therapist on the phone for only a few minutes. But she did suggest that I say' I wish to talk about this more' to my daughter. She explained that was a good approach. (she gave a reason, but I forgot it)
My daughter seemed happy to have a conversation. We talked for hours, about all sorts of stuff.
Your daughter did express that she didn't want to talk about it, but maybe since it's been a few days she, and you, are ready. I too wondered if I should not bring it up again until she does. But I needed her to know that she can talk to me about anything, even if it's hard. I've always told her that. I had to follow through.
I applaud you for your reaction and comments to your daughter. Remember, she must have felt safe to be able to tell you. I also want to get my daughter into a support group. I look forward myself to learning all I can on this journey.
❤️ best wishes to you both!