Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Hi all...I'm still here, thankfully so is our son! He is marking his 8th month at the end of this month. We had him over on his 7th month.
He's doing amazingly well. After all he's been through, all we've been through, he is working hard at a job he loves, has a vehicle that is 'dependable' for this moment lol, and he and his gf are expecting their child at the end of October. They have secured an apt that they should be moving into at the beginning of Oct. So that is a relief.
They still have a hill to climb. Debt wise, he is working diligently on getting his financial affairs straightened out to clean up his credit. He is working any overtime he can get. Sadly that baby will remain in the hospital for a month after birth, she is on methadone, so....that will be hard.
He chose to go through rehab without ANY medications, nothing, not for sleep, etc. Which I have to say I'm proud of him for. She had to stay on methadone for the baby. SHE still has a huge hill to climb as she will need to stay on it and get 'weaned'. It is not a perfect scenario, but both are stepping up to the plate and want this child more than anything.
I pray daily for them.
I and my hubby are doing much better together and have had a lot of our own life changes, for the good.
So I pray they continue on this good path.
I'm thankful for each day.
He's doing amazingly well. After all he's been through, all we've been through, he is working hard at a job he loves, has a vehicle that is 'dependable' for this moment lol, and he and his gf are expecting their child at the end of October. They have secured an apt that they should be moving into at the beginning of Oct. So that is a relief.
They still have a hill to climb. Debt wise, he is working diligently on getting his financial affairs straightened out to clean up his credit. He is working any overtime he can get. Sadly that baby will remain in the hospital for a month after birth, she is on methadone, so....that will be hard.
He chose to go through rehab without ANY medications, nothing, not for sleep, etc. Which I have to say I'm proud of him for. She had to stay on methadone for the baby. SHE still has a huge hill to climb as she will need to stay on it and get 'weaned'. It is not a perfect scenario, but both are stepping up to the plate and want this child more than anything.
I pray daily for them.
I and my hubby are doing much better together and have had a lot of our own life changes, for the good.
So I pray they continue on this good path.
I'm thankful for each day.
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Know it must be difficult for you to know that she needs methadone for the baby. If she stays commuted to what her doctors say then the baby will be ok. At least she will have two clean parents who will be on the right path.
My son has a bit of a mess to clean also. He's got almost 90 days and has cleaned up a lot so far.
Sending big hugs.
Many young people screw up their credit and figure it out and repair things...like anything, it takes time.
I hope the baby's momma can have a healthy delivery, and that the baby is healthy too. God bless them all.
Just one question.... what do you think was the turning point for him?
For my son, I think it was vomiting blood and really hitting a physical and financial and spiritual bottom...living in one room in his nice apartment, surrounded by garbage, sick as a dog.... was it the baby? was it something less defined?
Blueviolet: I've asked him that. He stated even AFTER he died, got brought back, he left the hospital, used and said he had an awful dream, something he won't retell, but he said with that dream, he made a call for a ride to rehab and waited a couple days to call me, to ensure his 'mental state'. I don't know to this day what it was. Maybe a delayed reaction to dying? Maybe something in his brain that he didn't realize UNTIL he went to sleep that he must've 'remembered' or 'recounted' that 'woke him up'? He didn't know about the pregnancy at that point, didn't find out she was pregnant until after a month, it appears she conceived right after the overdose. But the baby sure does have him grinding his feet in.
Time will tell.
I will always keep faith and hope. It's really all I have. :)