Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I have a home based therapist coming tonight, we used to see her when my husband had relapsed. Since speaking with my husband about noticing the signs of him relapsing and talking to old user friends my husband hasn't been talking to any of them! He agreed that I was right and he may have been slipping even if he didn't see it himself. I've checked the phone records, checked them today even....nothing out of the ordinary. If there was a number I didn't know he'd tell me who it was so I could look it up. He wasn't even mad that I asked and usually he is. I was actually quite shocked. With all of his past lies and manipulation I figured he was giving me some bs and was still doing it behind my back. I hadn't checked the records in a while, I was too afraid to see if he was still doing it. But since the therapist is coming I wanted to see if it was still an issue to be concerend with.
But there's still always that little part of me that knows the addict is still in him somewhere. That at any moment one lie could lead to another. I'm hoping for the best and I'm hoping he sees that with this therapist coming I mean business at any sign of relapse. Maybe i'm beint too intense about it but i'd rather he know the help is there than sit back and watch him drown on his own.
But there's still always that little part of me that knows the addict is still in him somewhere. That at any moment one lie could lead to another. I'm hoping for the best and I'm hoping he sees that with this therapist coming I mean business at any sign of relapse. Maybe i'm beint too intense about it but i'd rather he know the help is there than sit back and watch him drown on his own.
ugh. i don't really know what to say.
but you gotta trust him or you don't have a relationship.
idk. i think i would do all the talking to him instead of a
therapist.
or maybe try to get him to talk to you.
if he will.
lack of communication is what killed my two marriages.
warm safe hugs to you.
He admitted he knows he was slipping, that he's not strong enough to be around them and that it wouldn't just stay at phone conversations if he continued to talk to them. This is nothing he would tell me when we talked before, he would always put up a wall which is why I brought the therapist back. We still have a long ways to go and a lot of trust issues. But he was willing to sit down with her and talk, I gave him the choice whether or not he wanted to participate in the session. It certainly wasn't just about his problems I brought up my own as well. It was helpful to have someone there to make us feel comfortable enough to share our feelings without risking getting into a big fight.
checking his activities is not helping you and demeaning for him.
cool that you have a therapist that comes to you! never heard of such a thing.