Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Just a thank you note to all you wonderful people and a positive message because in large part of all of you.
I finally found the strength to let my son hit bottom. Two and a half months ago I was awake all night with one more horrible situation with him calling after a drunken rampage where so much happened, but basically he ended up on the side of the highway out of gas and wanting to run out into traffic. As a diabetic without any sugar in his car how could I just leave him there in this horrible nightmare that just seemed to get more and more out of control?
The strength from all of you got me through this and I am cautiously overjoyed to tell you that after that weekend of hell where I finally had him brought by the police to be admitted for his own protection to the hospital where he sat in an emergency psych room for 5 days. As horrible as it all was, I stayed strong and in those 5 days he started to want the help and agreed to go into a rehab program instead of me having to have him admitted to a local State hospital against his will. He spent a month in rehab, which I know is not a long time, but he is my son again, wiser, clearer and on the right path. He is addressing his medical needs, accepting the help he needs, going to AA and NA meetings daily - sometimes 3 times a day. He is so smart, beautiful and matured. I can't tell you the change I have seen.
I am still trying to maneuver through this relationship with the right amount of backing off and staying strong, but it is incredible how far he has come. I am cautious about being too excited and I worry whenever he comes home from a meeting 10 minutes later than I think he should be home, but I have my son back and today, in this moment he is doing so incredible and I will savor the moment and continue to pray that he gets a job soon and stays healthy, strong and on this path.
I needed your wisdom and strength to get us here and I will be forever thankful! Love you all! Stay strong and know that it can get better!
I finally found the strength to let my son hit bottom. Two and a half months ago I was awake all night with one more horrible situation with him calling after a drunken rampage where so much happened, but basically he ended up on the side of the highway out of gas and wanting to run out into traffic. As a diabetic without any sugar in his car how could I just leave him there in this horrible nightmare that just seemed to get more and more out of control?
The strength from all of you got me through this and I am cautiously overjoyed to tell you that after that weekend of hell where I finally had him brought by the police to be admitted for his own protection to the hospital where he sat in an emergency psych room for 5 days. As horrible as it all was, I stayed strong and in those 5 days he started to want the help and agreed to go into a rehab program instead of me having to have him admitted to a local State hospital against his will. He spent a month in rehab, which I know is not a long time, but he is my son again, wiser, clearer and on the right path. He is addressing his medical needs, accepting the help he needs, going to AA and NA meetings daily - sometimes 3 times a day. He is so smart, beautiful and matured. I can't tell you the change I have seen.
I am still trying to maneuver through this relationship with the right amount of backing off and staying strong, but it is incredible how far he has come. I am cautious about being too excited and I worry whenever he comes home from a meeting 10 minutes later than I think he should be home, but I have my son back and today, in this moment he is doing so incredible and I will savor the moment and continue to pray that he gets a job soon and stays healthy, strong and on this path.
I needed your wisdom and strength to get us here and I will be forever thankful! Love you all! Stay strong and know that it can get better!
I think it takes a long time to get past the worrying. I just do the serenity prayer whenever it starts to pop up.
As for the knowing when to help and when to back off? enabling is doing anything for him that he can do for himself. Although, I must say, I still might make a sandwich for my son when I see him, I expect him to do the same for me...no walking on egg shells.
It is great that he is using his meetings. His focus is in the right direction.
I have my son back for 4 years this April 8th. I still am learning and growing as fast as I can. Keep on coming back and sharing your knowlege with us.
just keep your boundaries in line,,, beware focus of the changes,,, and really it's not in your control,,,,
enjoy you son,,,, leave the past at the front door,,,, recovery is about progression,, not perfection,,,,