I read your previous post. I'm sorry that this has happen to you and your family. You shared that you are still in love with your husband and if you desire to work on your marriage, in hope that he will realize the mistake he has made, it would be beneficial if you found a counselor to help you work through the difficulties. Your emotional and mental wellbeing are so important as you care for your daughter, and as you work with a professional, they will help you work through this. If he goes through with the divorce, you will be able to move forward without carrying the baggage of the past.

That truly sucks. I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. It's totally valid to feel angry and outraged and confused and hurt and any other emotion. But what I find we sometimes overlook is the face and personality of addiction.

In some cases, I almost like to look at addiction as a whole different person. It's controlling, selfish and inconsiderate of any other person in their lives.
His choice to leave you and not be accountable is about him. This has nothing to do with something you did or didn't do. He owns these actions. and has full responsibility of them. When someone relies on a drug, substance, alcohol whatever - then there is something going on underneath. This is his baggage and it sounds like he is not doing anything to deal with them.

It doesn't make the current situation better by any means, but it might, in those moments where you are feeling really low, help with clarity.

As human beings, most often we tend to blame some part of ourselves for other's actions. For sure, we are not all perfect, but ultimately, the only thing we can control is ourselves. From the sounds of it, he may need to find his rock bottom. The Universe, God, World (whatever floats your boat, insert here) will take care of the rest.

For the time being, ,take care of you and your daughter. that is what is important and always will be.

I hope this helps a little.

Thank u, it is really hard right now knowing he had completely choice to act like we don’t exist and never did for him. I see now that we were never important or a priority in his life. He’s acting like he is this new person and has a brand new life. He’s never dealt with our relationship and just jumped into another. I’m taking it all one day at a time cause that’s all I can do. My daughter helps me cause she is my world

I can say in my situation my addict husband has not addressed any issues. Clean and sober for 4+ years.... He has alienated all of us. He has destroyed his relationship with our 2 older children, and the 2 still at home are seeing the truth now. It's the broken person inside that leads to the addiction. I think this new woman is your husbands new addiction. It has nothing to do with your or your daughter. I believe it is his way to avoid the path of hurt he has made and just become consumed with something else. I think they use avoidance to prevent being held accountable.
Of course this is all my opinion.... I too am in love with my husband and want more than anything to fix it. But, I am not the problem. I didn't break us. He did. Remember it's not your fault. And you are not alone.

I completely agree with u that he’s using jumping into this relationship to avoid ever having to deal with what he did to us. Our divorce is final on the 17th of this month and it still hurts but I’m just trying to focus on me and my daughter. He’s had no contact with us. We had court last month for child support and he made the 3 hour drive to come to it and not once asked about our daughter or ask to see her while he was in town. I’ve really come to realize that we meant nothing to him. I’m sorry your dealing with everything your dealing with too.