Hello, welcome here this site is the best! I can relate my hubby used heroin, he just hit his 13 month marker being clean. He only used maybe a year, but what a heck of a couple past years! Heroin is such a powerful drug, and destroys lives. He defiantly will need medical detox, for that one, and treatment. Im so so happy he came out and told you and your husband, he sounds like he is ready for a change. I wish you all the luck. I am here if you need to vent, talk or questions. I know what it is like to love a heroin addict, it is very hard.

Thanks Steph, I am so worried for him, and I also have to tell him that once he completes the 30 day residential program I am not going to let him come back to our house. There is a sober living house that i found out he can go straight to after he has completed the 30 residential and i believe that would be the best thing for him. Hes going to need the extra support and stucture that they can offer. I am at work everyday and am gone 12 hrs a day and im afraid if i let him come back to our home he will fall right back into that same life style. please tell me if you think this is the right thing to do. I belive it is because i love him and want him to move on with his life.

tlc,, weclcome,,, w are all here for you

my daughter i23 herion addict,,, I can't tell you what to do,, but I can tell you how we handled the situatrion,,,, for one,,, get yourself into a nar-acon, al- anon meeting it helps to realize your not alone, second,, it's great your your son wants to stop,,, but to he come to you with this problem, or did you find out about it,,, sounds crazy it does make a difference,,, if he really wants to quit,,, unfotunatley no one or anything can help an addicit but them wanting to quit,,,
for your own sake,, get has much education on herion,,, it's a horrible drug,, and the addiction is even worse... Your on the rigt track about not believing an addicit, becasue they will say things you want to here, don't be surprise if he goes on binge in the next couple of days,,, the key is do not enable,,,, tough love does not mean not loving, it means you love them so much, that you refuse to stand by and watch them destroy their lives,,,,thehadest thing I had to do was ask my daughter to leave the house I refused to hve my house open,,, so she had a place to sleep when she came down,, unfortunatly,, 30 day programs,, really is just 30 days of not using,,, it does not make them clean,,, they have to learn to cope with life without using,,,, the drug is just the sympton of the addicition,,, the drug numbs them from whatever the issue is that they can not deal with,,,, I'll pray for you and your family,, it's a very frusturating rollarcoaster of a ride,,, we are all here for you,,, please don't hestitate to ask anyone of us,,, we all know, what your going, through,, how your feeling,,,, Promise yourself, that you will not let your son's addicition or recovery,,, becme your addicition,, it happens so easily,,,God bless you

Thanks cardinal for your input it helps a lot.
We only just allowed my son to stay with us
A couple of weeks ago. It's a long story but since he has been using heroin he has lost his girlfriend and his son it's all just been a mess and his dad ( my husband is his step father) has enabled him this whole time and then he deserts my son. We had our suspicions he was using some kind of drug but we didn't have any proof. He came to us and asked us if he could stay at our house cause he had no where else to go so we let him and a week later he tells us he's addicted to heroin. So I hope he excepts this help that is put in front of him because I don't know whether he knows this or not but he has a long journey ahead of him. I have read just about everything there is to read on heroin and it's the devil that's for sure. I pray for your daughter and family to I hope this nightmare will end with great results.

Steph congrats on your hubby being 13 months clean. I hope I can say that about my son soon!

my son went from a hospital to a homeless shelter/rehab to a rehab and then to a halfway house, then a sober living house, all over the course of a year. All of it was hard for him, and good for us and him.

Yes you are doing the right thing, I believe. You are being very strong and he needs emotional support, from you and your husband but also support from the sober living. I think that is the best thing for him to do. 30 days is not enough because it takes so long to build up your steps. He will make friends (good ones ) there and start healing himself.
You, like me need to work on your self as well and your hubby. The news you just found out is life changing! Im sure you are angry, disappointing, worried all of the above, so joining this group is a great first step! Keep me posted, you can always message me too!

Welcome. I am so sorry about your son, but there is very good news in your post. First, you only found out about this three weeks ago and you already seem to be taking the right steps! You have no idea how long it takes many of us to get to the point that you are already at.

The second bit of good news is that he confessed and asked for help. That, too, is pretty rare.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Keep coming to this site. It really helps.

Sorry to hear about that. My prayers are with you and your family

Dear TLC, welcome and I Have a son 24 who is addicted to opiates and I know the feeling all to well of just finding out. It's devastating and turns your world upside down. I am so happy to hear he wants help, that's a start. I made a lot of mistakes because of my love and really never understanding addiction. You are taking some very smart steps sober living, and setting boundaries. Please do get help for yourself I never understood why everyone told me that until my son relapsed, once and then again. It all became clear that this is a disease that he will live with the rest of his life, and as a parent, spouse, or partner we have to truly learn to let their addiction become ours, you have come to t he right place, these are my friends that truly understand addiction from the inside out. It is hard especially in the beginning because we cant believe this happened and we believe that a rehab will snap them back into shape sometimes it does and sometimes it. Does and sometimes it takes much more. What matters is how we handle our addicts and there addiction, it was until my dear friend fom DS told me hand him over to God, that my life became clearer. I will pray for you and your son and please know we are here and truly understand the feelings you are going through. Hugs to you .

Hi TLC...Welcome! This group has been a life-saver for me,, and I hope that it will be for you also. The people here area Fabulous... non judgmental and very supportive. My qualifier is my son Sam (20 Heroin addict... 3 Felony drug convictions in 3 counties). Stay strong hon... know that we care

The Salvation Army has a program that is free. It is six months and the residents are expected to work and are slowly given freedom at intervals. Each one is different, it depends on the Captain of that residential home.
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn_2.nsf/vw-dynamic-index/8326D9D2FE6B4C05802573250030A6E1?Opendocument