Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
...and I think it's going to be long night!!!...
After the discussion we had Tuesday night...I think he's finally starting to get it...but with that comes an excuse to use, of course...
I think it wa sthursday morning, when he was getting ready to go to work, he was making some strange noises....and I thought he was making preparations to leave...but apparantly not...HOWEVER...it is now 9:20 on a Saturday night and he's not home from work yet...where do I think he is? OUT! USING!...hanging out with his 'friends'...what else am I supposed to believe...
Well oh well whatever...I have to get on with my life...I have a full day at church tomorrow....I have a PHYS.exam on Tues....I have a CALC exam on Wed...so...THAT is what I am going to focus on for the rest of this week!!! Me....ME...ME!!!...and study...study...STUDY!!!!... just wanted to document this here right now...so I will remember it when I deal with it after this semester ends.
this belly ache is bad though...I usually get an upset stomach and nausea, when I think he's out using...but this is different...it's an actual PAIN in the pit of my stomach!!!
After the discussion we had Tuesday night...I think he's finally starting to get it...but with that comes an excuse to use, of course...
I think it wa sthursday morning, when he was getting ready to go to work, he was making some strange noises....and I thought he was making preparations to leave...but apparantly not...HOWEVER...it is now 9:20 on a Saturday night and he's not home from work yet...where do I think he is? OUT! USING!...hanging out with his 'friends'...what else am I supposed to believe...
Well oh well whatever...I have to get on with my life...I have a full day at church tomorrow....I have a PHYS.exam on Tues....I have a CALC exam on Wed...so...THAT is what I am going to focus on for the rest of this week!!! Me....ME...ME!!!...and study...study...STUDY!!!!... just wanted to document this here right now...so I will remember it when I deal with it after this semester ends.
this belly ache is bad though...I usually get an upset stomach and nausea, when I think he's out using...but this is different...it's an actual PAIN in the pit of my stomach!!!
Keep telling yourself, "there is nothing I can do about this right now". "This is out of my control." Eventually it gets easier as you except this is really out of your control and his quitting is up to him. We can only do so much.
I belong to a group on harm reduction, most of the people are former addicts or addiction therapist and they all say eventually you have to do what is best for you.
Congrats on school!!! Hope you do good on your exams, so far I have 2 A's and hoping for an A in Algebra. That exam is the 9th, I have an A now but remembering all those terms is not easy!
It is good to try to note that you are not alone! You are not crazy! Many are going through exactly what you are going through, or have already been there.
It does get easier. I know that doesn't help today. But I promise that it does! It'll get easier if he gets help, or if you decide you will, with or without him.
Good luck on your exams! It might do you good to be so busy. No matter how much you're hurting over him, it won't affect him at all. Just remember, he's not sick to his stomach over you! So, don't get yourself sick over him! Get busy doing something else and try to ease your mind. I know it's easier to say than do, trust me, I know. Just try, even if it's for a few minutes at a time, forgetting will ease that pain! Go hang out with your friends/family. Sometimes, just chatting with my sister on the phone helped eased my mind and body, talking about senseless stuff and having a laugh. You could always try a Nar-Anon meeting. Get on Google and find some in your area. It might be nice to talk to people in person and get out of the house.
*HUGS* Hope you feel better!!!
there is NO PLACE I can go and be at peace anymore!!!....
now what the hell do I do!!!?