My 21 yr old son is a heroin addict. He went to court last week for probation violation and the Judge extended his probation for one year with random and frequent drug screens. Since then he lost his job...his version was that the boss asked all of his employees to take a drug screen and none of them took drug screens because they all knew they would fail...he fired them all. I found spoons in his bathroom over the weekend which he insists are from when he was using " a long time ago". He just lies about everything. He has pawned almost all of his tools. The girlfriend, who is also an addict, is back in the picture. She is having the same problems as him...no job, strained family relationships, etc. I received a phone call from her father on Friday evening that the "word on the street" is that my son is dealing heroin. He has tried twice to detox, one time at home and one time in a facility. Both times he has failed. I have finally been able to get him approved for health insurance which goes into effect Aug. 1. He has 4 doctor appointments between Friday and Monday of next week. Because he has no transportation and I work out of town, IOP is not an option for him although I know that's what he needs. There is no IOP offered in the town we live in. He starts SA counseling next week. He has been going to NA meetings, about 2 - 3 a week. I have come to believe that he isn't serious about any of this...he is just saying what he thinks I and everyone else wants to hear just to keep himself out of jail. I am at the end of my rope and God help me I feel like there are some things worse than death, for him and me.