Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I took a mOment before respounding to your post, I did not what to react out if anger, In fact I had a surge of sympathy for you. I value everyone's opinion,because I have the quality of being non-judgemental,,, let me take a few moments and give you a few facts, before you continue to judge me,,,,,,
First off,,, my addict is not 15,16or even 18,,, she will be turning 24,, this addiction has been active for awhile,, this is not the first relaspse, nor will it be the last, not quit sure the support you had ,, I've never turned my back on my addict, in fact i'v held her in my arms, carried her on my back,and stood by her side,,,
I have learned through educating , excepting any tool, and opening my mind and soul to this disease,,, I can not control my addict,,, however I can control my surroundings to Beable to support my addict,, we together has a family (7 of us) sat down and wrote boundaries has to what is expected , so there is no misunderstandings,,, the first boundary was "Please do not use in our home" she agreed, understood, and excepted that if she choice to use, she then choice to leave, get help, and most certainly Beable to come back home,,,,, unfortunately with her being an adult,,, I can not take her by the hand to rehap , nor can I sit on her, or attach myself to her, because I could be arrested, for harassing,,, it no longer is a parent disciplineing a child ,,
I'm pretty sure this site is a support group for family and friends if addicts, and the so called sympathy I receive from this group,, is why I'm here,,, and why I attend other support groups. ,
I'm glad you are clean and inspiration for many if us, who are dealing with a adult child who is an addict ,,, but in the future please do not falsely accuse me if things you are unaware of that goes on in my home ,, also keep in mind even though every addict goes through the same dark, ugly,,, addiction,,,, not every addict has the same support system
God bless you on continuing with your recovery,,,
First off,,, my addict is not 15,16or even 18,,, she will be turning 24,, this addiction has been active for awhile,, this is not the first relaspse, nor will it be the last, not quit sure the support you had ,, I've never turned my back on my addict, in fact i'v held her in my arms, carried her on my back,and stood by her side,,,
I have learned through educating , excepting any tool, and opening my mind and soul to this disease,,, I can not control my addict,,, however I can control my surroundings to Beable to support my addict,, we together has a family (7 of us) sat down and wrote boundaries has to what is expected , so there is no misunderstandings,,, the first boundary was "Please do not use in our home" she agreed, understood, and excepted that if she choice to use, she then choice to leave, get help, and most certainly Beable to come back home,,,,, unfortunately with her being an adult,,, I can not take her by the hand to rehap , nor can I sit on her, or attach myself to her, because I could be arrested, for harassing,,, it no longer is a parent disciplineing a child ,,
I'm pretty sure this site is a support group for family and friends if addicts, and the so called sympathy I receive from this group,, is why I'm here,,, and why I attend other support groups. ,
I'm glad you are clean and inspiration for many if us, who are dealing with a adult child who is an addict ,,, but in the future please do not falsely accuse me if things you are unaware of that goes on in my home ,, also keep in mind even though every addict goes through the same dark, ugly,,, addiction,,,, not every addict has the same support system
God bless you on continuing with your recovery,,,
It boils down to this: Addiction is a disease of selfishness. As family we have to sit back and continuiously support those who choose to relapse. It is a choice!!! No one is holding a gun to an addicts head and forcing them to use. Addicts have the support of sponsors, therapists, family, & friends. Yet we are left on our own to pick up the pieces. Enough is Enough!
Cardinal 39, YOU are an inspiration to us who are trying to hold other adults accountable for their actions whether they are an addict or not. Sticking to your principles and hoping for the best is the hardest thing we can do to protect ourselves and help our loved ones! Kudos to you and my prayers for you as well! - Ruby