My 27 year old son (opiate addict) was discharged from rehab on April 13. He was doing ok, but has absolutely not moved forward with his life. He has gone through paperwork to tabulate the financial hell hole he created for himself, but other than that has not applied for jobs, called his creditors, etc. He will mow, put dishes away, etc, but seems to have no motivation on his own. He went to a few meetings, joined in family parties, etc, but most of the time just stays in his room and sleeps. He does get bursts of energy when he plays his instruments, sees friends talks about doing things to move forward but really doesn't. He went with me to my counselor and he basically said that he doesn't want to talk to me because I ask too many questions! He said he is probably depressed, but has not set up an appointment with a "free" clinic that the counselor gave him a phone number for. My mother, my oldest son and my husband tell me that I need to set some boundaries, deadlines and consequences. He has an appointment to see my counselor by himself tomorrow (with a few minutes at the end for me). He has spent most of the money he got from unemployment (he has been steadily employed, in college, good credit until this hit the fan last year). Where do I find it in me to turn my back on my son and move on with my own life? I fear that my husband (not his father) is at the end of his rope with this mess and I may find myself divorced because I am not strong enough to do what I know I should do. I can't eat, sleep or think straight and my job performance is suffering (and I have a job I love). Where does one gather the strength they need to do what should be done and how does one know if it is truly the right thing to do in this situation?