Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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gordos4 04/04/2015

For any of you mothers that have those "gut" feelings, listen to them. I have had a horrible feeling about our alcoholic son, more intense than I ever have before. I have had it for about 2 weeks. He called yesterday, drunk, & threatened suicide He has eluded to the suicide thing before, but this time I could feel it was different and more serious, and we've called the police in the past. He somehow talked his way out of having to go with them. We live at the other end of the state, so I called my brother in law who lives there in the same city. Well, he rushed over there with the cops, they had to break the door, subdue him & EPC'd him He blew a 2.9 blood alcohol. I have been a basket case for the last 2 weeks and almost had a breakdown myself after he called. My husband & my other son drove down to Lincoln last night. I feel horrible because I couldn't go. My sister-in-law is a nurse practitioner & told me to stay home because it would do neither my son, nor I any good. I am just waiting by the phone to hear from someone. Please pray for my family. Thank you & Happy Easter.

Misssy2 04/04/2015

Hi there..he blew a .29...if he blew a 2.9..he would be dead.

I blew a .30 a couple weeks ago...so he is in serious trouble...and I was also suicidal...so I think the alcohol level has a lot to do with it.

I think you did have a breakdown :(....because saying happy easter when you are in this chaos...is a little out of the norm in my opinion. :).

He will be ok..they got to him...hopefully because it was so drama packed..he will be wanting to not feel like this anymore. This may be a turning point gordo..I hope it is for you and your son.

Easter doesn't matter...I'm not going to say happy easter..I'm going to say....I will pray for you and your son and your husband and family...and hope that NEXT EASTER....things are not like this....I hate addiction.

Hate it!

Misssy2 04/04/2015

oh..yea...and the gut feelings are REAL.
I have them all the time...or I can't sleep for some reason (more than usual) and then something ends up going on.

A couple of weeks ago I was extremely anxious and couldn't sleep..and it was WAY worse than my usual not being able to sleep..so while I was awake - my b/f's Mom called and wanted to go to hospital she didn't feel well...she is 86...I love this woman..so I knew right then that SHE was the reason I was so anxious that night.

And its an awful thing to KNOW that your gut is telling you something because you have to WAIT until it materializes and in the meantime we are NUTS.

gordos4 04/04/2015

Misssy, I was just trying to be nice by saying Happy Easter, it's not "out of the norm" It DOES matter to me and a lot of other people. It helps to bring me hope in times of sorrow. Just because my Easter is going to suck, doesn't mean I cant wish people that THEY have a happy one. Sorry, but you weren't here, so you cannot judge whether or not I had a breakdown. People handle things differently, I try to be kind even when Im going through hell.

Misssy2 04/04/2015

ok, sorry it seems when we "text" things can be taken out of context....I totally read you wrong and you did the same with my post.

Happy Easter...and best of luck to Brody! (nice name) :)

blueviolet725 04/06/2015

Wow. My son blew a 1.8 in DUI terms...that is what they said Missy...they use those terms in cop talk, not necessarily medical talk...so be nice.

I hope this will be his bottom and he will be getting some help. My son had to do a medical detox, and suspect your son may need it too.

Alcohol is such a depressant. Yes, I had those gut feelings too....many of us have..it just adds to our anxiety since we can't stop them from their self destructive behavior. Oh, and I am sending you a message as well.

I hope you will let us know how he is doing...and I will say a prayer for him and your family today.

gordos4 04/06/2015

Thank you blueviolet for the reply & the message. We all need reminding.
My husband has to leave Lincoln today & our son is still being evaluated by the psychiatrists. I hope & pray to God that they don't just "let him out". We have been through this before, not quite as serious, but they let him go before. They reminded us that there is nothing we can do unless & until he seeks help himself. I am just terrified that he will hurt himself or someone else before that happens. I wish we weren't at the other end of the state. I feel helpless. I pray God & Jesus look after him.

Misssy2 04/06/2015

blue violet..why does it matter first of all?
If the kids are drunk...

But because I am always right...lol..

There is no way 1.8 is possible...I know a lot about this topic...and after point 30...a person can be comatose...So your son was .18 which is 3x legal limit and dangerous..

But no way...1.8 or he would be legally dead.
Why does the level matter?

What matters is the condition he was in and the help he is willing to take.

gordos4 04/06/2015

I thought I had corrected my mistake. He blew a .29, not a 2.9. I Was just repeating what my husband texted me. He was black-out drunk, that's all I know.

cottontail 04/10/2015

I will pray for Brody and hope that he recovers and finds peace.

plantlover 04/13/2015

Technicalities don't matter.
Your son was/is in a bad way and needs help.
I'm hoping and praying for your son that he gets the help he needs!
Big hugs

greemashell 04/14/2015

I am so sorry to hear this.How are you doing?How is Brody now?
I will pray for you and your son daily!May God bring you peace and strength and lift up His precious child.
Our Father please raise up Brody out of this addiction.Only you know everything he needs Lord.I ask that you remove this affliction from him and bring him back to good health.I also ask that you give Mom and family peace and rest in their souls,cover this family with love and joy Lord,May they look to you to lift these burdens.In Jesus name I pray.Amen

brok3nh3art 04/14/2015

The prayer was wonderful. I will also pray for your family. Your not alone God is always with you.

gordos4 04/20/2015

Thank you all for your prayers & replies. We had a repeat almost to the hour the next Friday. He tried to hit a cop this time, so he got arrested & spent the weekend in jail. His sentencing is on May 4th. In the meantime. he is at home, alone. He says that being in jail scared the heck out of him & says he hasn't drank in over a week. We will see....I am skeptical because I know how hard it is stop drinking without help. He admits he is an alcoholic now, I guess that's something.

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