Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I feel like God has really been testing me lately, and I don't know how much more I can handle.
I have been with my husband for about 15 years, and he is an alcoholic. We had our ups and downs and then he started abusing prescription drugs a couple of years ago.
He started taking Suboxone (used to treat opiate addiction) and things started getting better. He has relapsed a few times and is still on the suboxone.
Then a few days ago, he was rear ended at a stop light. And of course, got Vicoden from the ER doctor when I know the pain was not bad - he went to work that day and it is physical.
Anyway, now he is back to his old self telling me he needs the pills because of pain and has gone to his lawyer friend to try to sue the person that hit him. It was a very minor accident with hardly any damage. I know he is milking it and trying to get the most out of it and will be going to see a Orthopedic as well.
I am sure they will also prescribe some sort of opiate as he will tell him he is in pain.
I am dealing with some medical issues with my 9 year old son and then this happens. I do not count on my husband for much of anything and I know I should leave. It seems so simple, yet it isn't.
I try to go to Alanon meetings when I can - but with my son at home, I can't make them over the summer usually. I have a so-called sponsor who seems to be preaching to me rather than helping, so I am trying to find support where I can.
I am also going to call a therapist tomorrow that my friend recommended because my anxiety levels are off the charts. I take Clonazapem for it and took one as soon as I woke up this morning because of the anxiety.
So sorry for the very long post - just had to get it all out :)
Thanks
I have been with my husband for about 15 years, and he is an alcoholic. We had our ups and downs and then he started abusing prescription drugs a couple of years ago.
He started taking Suboxone (used to treat opiate addiction) and things started getting better. He has relapsed a few times and is still on the suboxone.
Then a few days ago, he was rear ended at a stop light. And of course, got Vicoden from the ER doctor when I know the pain was not bad - he went to work that day and it is physical.
Anyway, now he is back to his old self telling me he needs the pills because of pain and has gone to his lawyer friend to try to sue the person that hit him. It was a very minor accident with hardly any damage. I know he is milking it and trying to get the most out of it and will be going to see a Orthopedic as well.
I am sure they will also prescribe some sort of opiate as he will tell him he is in pain.
I am dealing with some medical issues with my 9 year old son and then this happens. I do not count on my husband for much of anything and I know I should leave. It seems so simple, yet it isn't.
I try to go to Alanon meetings when I can - but with my son at home, I can't make them over the summer usually. I have a so-called sponsor who seems to be preaching to me rather than helping, so I am trying to find support where I can.
I am also going to call a therapist tomorrow that my friend recommended because my anxiety levels are off the charts. I take Clonazapem for it and took one as soon as I woke up this morning because of the anxiety.
So sorry for the very long post - just had to get it all out :)
Thanks
There isn't anything you can do to stop your husband. You can only control what you do.
Ask yourself where you want to be in 5 yrs. Do you want to still be living like you are now?
I agree what your husband is doing is wrong sueing someone when in actuality he trying to get drug money.
Sometimes we have to take a break from living with the addict and put the enphasis only ourselves and our children.
Goodluck.
I have made some positive changes, beside running my own custom drapery business I have enrolled in college. I decided in 5 yrs I want to be somewhere else, not stuck living in the same area. I want to live near the ocean and hopefully have a relationship with someone I can share my life with.
Do I just step back and say nothing? Do I tell him how I feel? I am at a loss, I have so much going on this month, that this drama is just killing me inside.
I know I should just let him dig himself deeper into a hole, but it is affecting me and my mental health as well. I am calling a therapist today to see how quickly I can get in to talk to her.