I am in the same boat as you. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Good luck to you and your daughter

Those of us with addict children know exactly how you feel. I don't know how many times I told my addict son that I would no longer lend him money. Then he would come up with a story that compelled me to open up my wallet. It was such a game and never-ending cycle. It made me physically ill. I dreaded any phone calls.

You have read this before but setting boundaries is the only why for you to get healthy. I read the book "Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children" and found it to be harsh, at times, but in the end if offers steps on how to do this and how to detach with love.

I am much healthier when I have limited contact with my son.

Please hang in there and take care of yourself. We all know we didn't cause the addiction and we can't fix it.

I can also endorse the book "Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children". Helped me immensely. And I also read "Don't Let Your Kids Kill You" - written by a father of two addicts.

Both books helped me, along with therapy and NAR-Anon. There are also online meetings - NAR-anon Chat. We are meeting tomorrow night at 830pm EST. If you can't get to local in person meeting, these are good alternatives.

I have made it to the otherside it took me a few years but I have made it, The best the I read was an addict will always find a way to get their drugs and get to a dealer to get them. So the next time they ask you for something tell yourself that they can find a way on their own they will always find a way to get their drugs. My daughter once even made up a story that she had a tumor going in her stomach that was pressing on her liver making her bleed and her very sick. When pressed about it over time without giving her anything. Nothing ever came about the tumor even after she said she need ER surgary ofcourse that never happen. So again the next time they ask remember the WILL ALWAYS FIND A WAY TO GET THEIR DRUGS.ALWAYS and any help you give them is helping them get their drugs. I read it in a book I will try and find the tilte

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results...... I know how hard it is, but please understand in all the craziness we hurt them more than help them. Only you can stop the insanity. Trust me, when I say when you save yourself, is when your world and in many instances your addict changes. Hugs,

I have kept my 19-year-old son alive and out of jail for the last two years. He tried to commit suicide three times in the past. This made me afraid to discipline him. Tough love is not in my vocabulary or should I say wasnt. I am taking baby steps.
He was kicked out of a recovery house because he was using K2. He stopped using all together for about two months. And then I found weed in his bedroom. I could see the pattern starting over again. It scared me to death.
I was going to discuss it with him when he got out of work last Saturday, however we ended up arguing about it before work. Needless to say, he did not go to work past the tiny bag and left the house. Without his bipolar medication.
He text me that he wanted to come home because he hadnt taken his meds. I told him he could if we could talk calmly. He said to forget it
Then last night I text him to see if he was safe. He said he was but he would like mommy to eat because he was starving. I told him that if he was starving he wasnt safe. I offered him food and shelter and a warm bed. He told me off. It was horrible. Then I told him it was his decision and he told me to go play in traffic and called me a few names. He and I have been very close since my husband passed away and I find this situation not knowing where he lives almost unbearable.
I cry a lot. Knowing that I was the one to tip him over the edge makes me physically sick. I know anything or anybody couldve done it, however it was me.
I wish I could give you some words of wisdom, however I dont have any. All I could offer you is hugs and prayers.