Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I am a mother of a 23 years old daughter who is addicted to alcohol and marijuana. She will try to stop for a while and relapses. The thing is she is in denial, she does not think she has a problem. She is not working or going to school. She has a boyfriend who has similar problem and now she is on a mission to save him when she can't save herself. She is so manipulative, lies and stills sometimes. I tried to convince to get some help but she won't. I am finally separated from her father who is a functional alcoholic in denial too. She left the house for 2 weeks now and I am worried but this time I change my locks and her father will not stop telling me that I am wrong for changing my locks. I told him he can take her to his home too. She won't call me and I am trying not to call her or look for her this time but I am worried. I don't want to be the enabler any more. please some one tell me something. Thank you.
I think you did the right thing. you work too hard to have someone steal from you.
she is an adult.
as my mom always reminds me...bad news travels fast....so if she gets arrested, or goes to the hospital...you will hear about it.
I was thankful that my son quit drugs and "ONLY" went to drinking and pot....then he gave up pot. Yeah, he was a full blown alchie.
Obviously she is in a toxic relationship too...
Don't let the ex or her guilt you into doing anything you don't want to. calmly set your boundaries and stick to them. It is hard. it sucks.
I know the worries of not knowing where your kid is...
I would be up nights worrying. He was sound asleep somewhere.
I was sick to my stomach. he was drinking and eating and partying.
I finally got a statue of a craved wooden hand...upturned. I visualized it as God's hand. I (on hands and knees) put my hand on that hand and delivered my kid to God to take care of. I hoped and prayed and waited...for good news or bad.
Yes, I did have a good outcome. Some of my friends here did not.
That is not the answer.
The answer is that it isn't up to us. we can't do a damn thing about it. If loving them and praying for them was enough? none of us would be here.
I hope we can give you some of the support you need.
I just left my therapist..so I have some good information.
She told me...I have to do what keeps ME sane....I can't fix ANYONE around me.
If this is making you more comfortable and stronger about sticking to some sort of boundary..than you have to stand by what you believe. I sorry you are going thru this with your daughter.
I wish our husbands or boyfriends could be on the same page all the time..but unfortunetly it doesn't work that way.....
Keep it up...be true to yourself...the rest will follow.
God Bless you all.