Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I just wrote a journal entry that I need some input on... http://www.dailystrength.org/people/59647/journal/3641553
This person was a good friend before some things happened and they got caught and I still have to deal with them. They are my neighbour and moving is not an option right now and besides that I don't want to move. Just not sure how to set the right boundaries and not get so stressed when having to face them.
This person was a good friend before some things happened and they got caught and I still have to deal with them. They are my neighbour and moving is not an option right now and besides that I don't want to move. Just not sure how to set the right boundaries and not get so stressed when having to face them.
you might have to really get in touch with your inner strength and just say, "I don't want you coming over here any more. at all. period" you could preface it by saying "I have forgiven you but I have not forgotten"
yeah, you don't want a fight, but you have to be firm....why treat her better than you treat yourself? people like that are predators, and if you are weak, she will get back in and steal some more. Learning to say NO is hard for nice people...
I had a very agressive lady ask me out once...and I started to say "I am flattered, but not interested" but the way she was asking me out, was not at all flattering, it was gross, and if it was a guy I would have let him have it...so I stopped mid sentence and said "no, I am not flattered, I am grossed out by how aggresive you are, and I am not interested, so buzz off" and I felt foolish and uncomfortable...but at least it was over. Being nice was just letting her continue with her "act"...and making me a victim.
Good luck. Be strong. they are the ones who win.