Every Tuesday, I run a meeting,, and if any of you know,, that persons needs to or should,, provide, information, solutions, great discussion, as well as comfort,,
Today, I thought, ( as some of you know I analyze everyhthing), let break addiction down,,, at not just focus in the use of drugs,,,
Addiction is a disease of the mind, body and soul ,, a symptom of that disease is drugs,, which we visually see,, but another symptom is manipulation,, which is the addict best asset,,,which for us we can slowly get sucked up in it, without even realizing,,

I gave the deffiinition of a manipulator ,, a person that wants something,, and fights hard to get it,, no matter the consequences,,

The addict's manipulation is very effective method if power and control, on the surface, they appear passive, with a underling aggressive behavior where they back us into a cornor, where eventually we back down and give in. They manipulate to gain something no matter what the cost is, they need to feel powerful and in control ,, increases their low- self esteem. Some have no social skills to obtain their needs,, and some are psychopathic,having trouble understanding or empathzing their own feelings,, let alone others and placing their own desires first. They use anger to upset us,subtle indirect threats, they refuse to admit they have done anything wrong. They never give a straight answer, and the subject is changed before we even realized it, they play dumb, pretending to have no idea what we are talking about, and claimed anything that happened was not intentionally, therefore this makes us question our judgement or our insanity ( we think we are crazy), they are so notorious to give these vague, rambling responses which we just become confuse over the matter at hand, which then leads us to stop pursing the conversation that we started with,, been there!, experts at lying, by the time the truth is apparent it's to late to do anything about it,, so smooth at it!, then they paint this picture of "poor me", how selfish we are,, how we don't care about then,, it's makes us start feeling guilty ,, therefore we enter into their trap. I'm sure this is pretty universal,, the blame game, excuses reasons why their behavior should be justified,, there goes that guilt trip, ( or trap),, and now they are victims, and we made them use drugs! We not knowing allow our love one to manipulate because we don't want to believe that they could be so ruthless, Especially us parents ,, shout conceived them out if love,, how date they hurts us this way, we gave a fear,, that if we just not confront them, that maybe they won't go out and use ( yea, didn't work for me,, I walked on egg shells and hot coals for two years ),, the addict is so smooth and good a manipulation that we don't even realize it until we are swimming in that tornado tunnel,,

So I wrote the first line,, how to know your being manipulated by a love one,,,

This one was hard, I believe I choked up,, because the gift of a miracle my baby girl, that I cherished and loved with all my heart and soul,, she became the master manipulator,, and for the longest time I believed, excepted, and allowed this ( of course with out knowing)
Today I know those bull crap apologies, my inner gut tells me,, if it sounds like a pile of sh$& it probably is, and those favors they agree to help you with, but never really do,,and I know when they don't directly express their needs and wants , and use tactics like guilt to get us to act the way they want,,
So fill in the blank how did you know you were being manipulated by your addict;

Love ya all