HA!
I work out of state for over 2 weeks twice a year, we have a laundry shute...(shoot!)
guess how high the laundry was piled in the basement after all that time?
He is NOT the addict.
He just does not do laundry.
I literally think he would either bring it ALL to the dry cleaners, or buy new.
Thanks for the laugh this morning!!!

And he does not pick up dog poop in the house. One of the dogs got sick last night, and he yelled up to me this morning while I was still in bed....so I could get up and go pick it up. I guess it is all my professional training at the SPCA, huh? ;)

hey blueviolet! thanks for the reply....in a way i am glad to hear your husband does not pick up the poop. i have always found it interesting how he can pick and choose his household tasks, and i just do the rest . i just figure if i was alone i would be doing it all any way.

This reminds me of my boyfriend. Just yesterday, he cleaned up the downstairs area (however it wasn't really dirty, just needed vacuum and dishes done). So anyway, he gets up early and does them before I even get out of bed around 7:30am. So then, later that day he says "you could have said thank you for cleaning the house". WHAT??!!! I clean the house everyday (which is why it isn't dirty) and you never thank me! I do ALL the chores except his laundry. I cook dinner every night and make sure he has something to take for his lunch the next day. Wow, I just realized I sound like a stay at home mom. I also have 2 daughters. But guess what....I work full time and go to school full time and manage the house and he wants a THANK YOU????? What the hell is wrong with this picture??
Sorry I needed to vent.

LOL! Notice how no men have responded to this! I think its more of a man thing than an addict thing. I am in the same boat as you kiralind, minus the daily cooking (hubby eats a late lunch and is not hungry at dinner, toddler are pickey so its just not worth the effort). I have to say though....I have not taken out the garbage, nor have I had to ask since we started dating 8 years ago.

On Saturday it was raining all day so the kids were couped up and crazy....my husband took over the "playroom" so he could watch tv, for about 5 hours! So the kids were on top of me, literally the entire time, I got nothing accomplished and was exhausted anyway....at one point they went in to the "playroom" for about 5 minutes and he stormed upstairs to the bedroom because he needed a break...seriously!?!?!?!?

I have to add an amendment....since I had thyroid cancer, 6 years ago, and was never hungry...the husband started cooking, and is actually quite good. I don't do it anymore, hardly ever, and I don't miss it...I did the first 25 years, he can do the second. He does bitch when he has to take out the trash....he saw it as my job.
growing up, his mom, in london, always did the trash....they did the recycling the old fashion way with the rag and bone man....selling bits to various guys...and it was her household money...he was never allowed to touch it! So in my house, my dad brought the cans way up the road to the street to be picked up...funny how we were both so "set in our ways!"

I am very tired of the olympics, the sports shows about the olympics and all the hype and negativity about these poor kids who made it to the olympics and get trash talked by some jerk behind a desk....that is on at my house this week. (venting is so much fun!_)

The trash is my job too. And if he does take out the trash he never puts a trash can liner back in so then everyone starts dumping their trash in the can with no liner until I notice and then have to clean out the trash can and put in a liner. UGH!!! but yet my boyfriend is a clean freak!!!! He expects everything to be picture perfect clean but he wants me to do it all.....UGH MEN!!!

"I need my passport" he announces...at 8:45 pm...the plane leaves at 6 AM...
"I will look in the lock box" I answer (first mistake). Not there. the old one, not the new one...Sh*t!

Not in the top little dresser drawers, not in the bottom junk draw. SH*T!!

Where could it be? I go tell him he has to search his office....as I do, I pass by the little box he throws his watch and change into every day...and there, under all the useless crap from his pockets is his passport...sitting there for a year? more?

He says :"what's the matter with you?"

SH*T!
gotta laugh.

LOL! If you don't laught, you'll cry, right? My husband misplaces his phone or his wallet once a day, but freaks out on me if I don't know where something is(for example, the manual for an appliance we bought 5 years ago!).

I decided, during the ugly years of addiction, that he is just one of those people that holds everyone around him to extremely high standards, but holds himself to nothing...and since he has set the bar so low for himself, he never feels as though he has done anything wrong.

And now the cleaning rant has circled back to selfish addict behavior. :(

haha Blue, you crack me up... the other evening after my hub had cooked some wonderful burgers on the grill, I said "thanks for cooking"... he laughed & said " haha, yeah, how was your night off? ... YOU did all the prep... I just threw them on the grill"... it's like oh yeah, I did... we had a good laugh..

Laura- you talk about the manuals for the appliances...FUNNY! I just went thru that same conversation. He asks, "Where is the manual for the dishwasher?" I say, "I don't know, you bought that dishwasher before we started living together". He says "Well I need it, there is an error code on it and it won't start". I say "Ok...so look for it" and he gets all wound up like I just killed his prized beta fish (yes he has a beta fish fetish)!.
So, I go and look in the drawer where the rest of the manuals are and lo and behold..THE DISHWASHER MANUAL!

Then I start wondering how he even saw the error code since he never washes dishes LOL!!