My AH has been clean for six weeks and I really felt we were making good progress and he was taking responsibility for his actions. We started addressing the finances and he was very hesitant to do so, so we had the discussion with his therapist, approximately two weeks ago. I walked out feeling that I had a handle on things. Early this week, I went to finalize our taxes and to see in black and white the stupid decisions he made, really made me angry. I told him I was angry and to give me space - this was Tuesday evening. Last night, before we are going to bed, he tells me, I knew you were going to do this and now we are back to the beginning and everyone has debt and we will get it paid off. He said "You promised you wouldn't hold it against me and now you are breaking the contract" I feel like breaking his head but I am learning not to engage in this oh poor me pity party. He said I better not be coming around to him, when the debt starts to get paid off......Also, got a lecture that I don't support him enough, which this lecture seems to be every other day.

This morning on my grocery list he wrote "Sense of Dignity, Manhood"

Any suggestions on how to handle a person in the beginning stages of recovery?