My friends I need help and lot's of prayers. Please bear with me because my mind is all over the place and I may begin to ramble. Although my daughter is the addict in my life things have been going pretty good between us, we have started counseling and are trying to rebuild our relationship. My son and his wife think I should pretty much throw her out and cut her out of my life, they don't know about our counseling they just look at her as a junkie and that's all they will ever see. Easter was the final straw when they invited every one to dinner and excluded Krista. I told them I would not leave her home alone and that's when the battle began.
My DIL is very disrespectful and we have had words more than once, she has parties on Friday nights sometimes until 3 in the morning, she has a drinking problem but both my son and DIL are in denial yet they pass judgment on my daughter all the time. The straw that really broke the camel's back is when my DIL told my son to close the front door so I could not use it and would have to use the back door. I went upstairs to confront her and told her I'd use the front door in my house anytime I wanted too. One thing lead to another a lot of yelling and I told her she was a rotten mother and wife, that my son takes care of his girls not her, he does the cleaning, laundry, cooking and takes them to school. I think I hit a nerve because her face turned so red I swear if my son wasn't there she would have gone for my throat. I have asked them to leave the house because I can't live like this anymore. their reaction was that when they leave they are taking everything with them and leaving me with nothing, they plan on taking ceiling fans, fixtures in the bathroom and anything they think they put into this house. I don't care about the material things but they are not allowing my 2 granddaughter's to speak to me, they are so afraid that when they see me they turn their heads and act like I am not even there.
I am becoming more and more depressed, I have spoken to my husband and he is just as frustrated as I am. My son told me he doesn't care what his father says he is going to do what he wants and told me to tell him not to bother calling him. I am having some terrible thoughts lately, sometimes I think everybody would be better off if I weren't here. I don't know how things got so bad, I should never have had to choose between my children, neither is perfect but my son thinks I care about my daughter more. I care about them equally except my daughter needs my help a bit more because of her depression and her past issues with pain med's, which my son & DIL will never let her forget.
I can't handle much more of this and don't like these thoughts I'm having. I really don't want to get the police involved but when they do move out I'm afraid I may have to, then I'm sure I will loose all contact with my granddaughter's and my son too. Some days when I go to bed I hope that I won't wake up the next morning and this will all be over. I need some help and advice.
Thanks,
Pat