Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
thought I would share this with you all
Posted on 01/24/12, 10:03 am
"Let Me Fall All By Myself"
If you love me let me fall all by myself.
Don't try to spread a net out to catch me.
Don't throw a pillow under my ass to cushion the pain so I don't have to feel it. Dont stand in the place I am going to land so that you can break the fall (allowing yourself to get hurt instead of me) ...
Let me fall as far down as my addiction is going to take me, let me walk the valley alone all by myself, let me reach the bottom of the pit ...
trust that there is a bottom there somewhere even if you can't see it.
The sooner you stop saving me from myself, stop rescuing me, trying to fix my broken-ness, trying to understand me to a fault, enabling me ...
The sooner you allow me to feel the loss and consequences, the burden of my addiction on my shoulders and not yours ... the sooner I will arrive ... and on time ... just right where I need to be ... me, alone, all by myself in the rubble of the lifestyle I lead ...
resist the urge to pull me out because that will only put me back at square one ...
If I am allowed to stay at the bottom and live there for awhile ... I am free to get sick of it on my own, free to begin to want out, free to look for a way out, and free to plan how I will climb back up to the top.
In the beginning as I start to climb out .. I just might slide back down, but don't worry I might have to hit bottom a couple more times before I make it out safe and sound ...
Don't you see ??
Don't you know ??
You can't do this for me ... I have to do it for myself, but if you are always breaking the fall how am I ever suppose to feel the pain that is part of the driving force to want to get well. It is my burden to carry, not yours ...
I know you love me and that you mean well and a lot of what you do is because you don't know what to do and you act from your heart not from knowledge of what is best for me ... but if you truly love me let me go my own way, make my own choices be they bad or good ... don't clip my wings before I can learn to fly ...
Nudge me out of your safety net ... trust the process and pray for me ... that one day I will not only fly, but maybe even soar."
love,,, the addicit
Posted on 01/24/12, 10:03 am
"Let Me Fall All By Myself"
If you love me let me fall all by myself.
Don't try to spread a net out to catch me.
Don't throw a pillow under my ass to cushion the pain so I don't have to feel it. Dont stand in the place I am going to land so that you can break the fall (allowing yourself to get hurt instead of me) ...
Let me fall as far down as my addiction is going to take me, let me walk the valley alone all by myself, let me reach the bottom of the pit ...
trust that there is a bottom there somewhere even if you can't see it.
The sooner you stop saving me from myself, stop rescuing me, trying to fix my broken-ness, trying to understand me to a fault, enabling me ...
The sooner you allow me to feel the loss and consequences, the burden of my addiction on my shoulders and not yours ... the sooner I will arrive ... and on time ... just right where I need to be ... me, alone, all by myself in the rubble of the lifestyle I lead ...
resist the urge to pull me out because that will only put me back at square one ...
If I am allowed to stay at the bottom and live there for awhile ... I am free to get sick of it on my own, free to begin to want out, free to look for a way out, and free to plan how I will climb back up to the top.
In the beginning as I start to climb out .. I just might slide back down, but don't worry I might have to hit bottom a couple more times before I make it out safe and sound ...
Don't you see ??
Don't you know ??
You can't do this for me ... I have to do it for myself, but if you are always breaking the fall how am I ever suppose to feel the pain that is part of the driving force to want to get well. It is my burden to carry, not yours ...
I know you love me and that you mean well and a lot of what you do is because you don't know what to do and you act from your heart not from knowledge of what is best for me ... but if you truly love me let me go my own way, make my own choices be they bad or good ... don't clip my wings before I can learn to fly ...
Nudge me out of your safety net ... trust the process and pray for me ... that one day I will not only fly, but maybe even soar."
love,,, the addicit
Fear
What is this fear inside me? Do I let it be my wheel? Do I make myself vulnerable and face the fear I feel? Do I dance the dance fear plays for me? What fuels this dance, what plays this song that holds me frozen to this place? I take a breath and taste my fear. It tastes of bitterness. Fear NOT exuberates from my depths. Have you not learnt from your past, but this one lesson? Fear does not become you. Place your fears upon your chest, and trust that which guides you. Allow all words to leave your lips, exposing your raw existence. Reach out to that which stirs your soul and let your being shine through. Share whats in your heart exposing all you are. Break the frenzied feeding of the fear that eats your soul. Use the strength within your heart to give you wings to soar.