I rember when I first found this site, I was a total wreck, I was hopeless, helpless and totally consumed with the world of an addict, I could not even tell you the time of day, let alone what day it was. This site showed me I was not alone, and enabled me to put a title on my addict, I could not tell you the difference between what a drug was, herion was a term used in the gheto, where houses where abandon, where families never talked,, boy was I wrong,,,, my point is to all the newbies,,,, educate, don't be afraid to gather has much tools has you can, to survive,,,, read old post , most importantly respect yourselves,,, learn the importance of boundaries , and use them,,, learn that tough love, by no means to stop loving the addict,, it means that you love them so much, that you refuse to feed into their addiction, never give up, but please stop giving in,, it makes us no different then the dope man selling the drug, except they get paid,
I may not be in the perfect spot with my addict, but I'm in a much better place with her then I was,,,, my only regret is not sticking to the boundaries sooner,,, allowing her to manipulate me, into thinking I was helping her,,, my suggestions, advice, comfort and tears are real life experiences, that I could of never copy out of a book,,
My addicted choice to leave 6 weeks ago , because she gave into her addiction,, many times through out those weeks , I had no idea what she was doing, where she was,,, but I knew if she realized that until the pain of the addiction,,, being scared for her life, being hungry, realizing that true friends and family woukd not help her to get high,,, today I can't say we have that tight relationship we once had, but in time we will , she never thought I would actually become strong and follow through,,, she is working ,,, in fact two jobs,( which when she lived here, she claimed she could not find one!?!!) she is renting a room from a very nice older woman it may not be what she is accustomed to growing up,, and wow us going to meetings because she wants to,,,,,
I may never get the daughter back that I do cherished, but the one that does return will have made it , because she wanted to!
So never give up hope,,, and open your minds to,,,, blue, dee, dematt, Mack ( who by the way has come along way,,, so proud if her) Katrina ,, Palmer, bahamguy , pen,,, we all have been where you are starting out,,, we know the pain of what your going through,,,

Patience becomes away of life,, controll is only a term used for your life,,, a lie,, becomes a words that are used every day,,,

You may not always like what you hear,,, but love that we understand

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I rember when I found this site

Hugs to all