Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Hi, I'm new to this group and I need help. I am married to a wonderful man who is an alcoholic. When he is not drinking he is the most wonderful husband, he's kind, gentle, attentive, caring, and loving, add alcohol to the equation and its hell. I am not without fault however, I am addicted to gambling, I've been gamble free for 2 years, due to my addiction I ended up in County Jail serving 7.5 months of a 1 year sentence. I was released 7 days ago, and my husband has been on a 5 day binge. I love him very much and believe in marriage, however I know I need help. My hope is that I find help. I vowed never to go back to my old patterns of behavior, and I intend to keep it. I want him to stop, and I don't know what to do.
I do know about addiction. I do know that yours and his are still very active and close to the surface.
I know that for my son, they told him to not embark on any new relationships, or make any major changes in established ones during the first year. Why? because all of their energy should be on themselves, and getting better.
You just got out. You need to focus on you staying well...getting to meetings, getting support and learning to live free on the outside.
The thrill of getting out will be gone soon (if not already) and you will feel the need for your next addrenalyn fix...so focus on you.
if he can't deal with you being out, or whatever his problems are, they are for another day.
Yes, you understand addiction. You understand that no one can make anyone stop any addiction.
work on your side of the street for now.
take care of you.
welcome to the group. hope you join some others here on DS and get all the support you need for this big transition.