Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
My girlfriend is a decade sober, but for the most part still acts like an addict. Stopping the drugs was a good start to healing, but it's been a long road in dealing with the rest of the illness. She has been diagnosed with ptsd and a personality disorder...
Us non addicts think that all the addict has to do is stop the drugs and suddenly they will be healed. I used to think that way. But now I have learned the issues are much deeper.
So in your case, no, it is probably not just the effects of the drugs you are seeing. It is an underlying illness that you are seeing, and part of that illness is a compulsion to use drugs and act out.
He is an ex-cocaine addict, and currently recovering alcoholic. He managed to stay sober for a year at one point, but fell off the wagon again. It is very hard, and I do not know if I will be able to stay in this relationship much longer, because I am starting to feel that it will never stop, ever, that I will always be angry or hurt or worried about him or something.
Anyway, he feels that the cocaine and the alcohol was a form of self-medicating. The alcohol for anxiety, and the cocaine to deal with his bi-polar moods.
So, the root of many addictions, I think, is often a mental illness or other problem. The problem, in a certain way, isn't the addiction...I mean, the addiction is a problem, but, to solve the addiction, you have to solve the underlaying problem. In other words: what's causing the addiction?
I hope that makes sense.
Many years ago I went to AA meetings with my now X and a lot of the time they kept blaming the booze and now tha they are not using -they are wonderful.
I did not see that at all and was very confused and very discouraged after having such high hopes.
Reality is they can stop using but are left with the underlying illness to deal with and can be worse because they are no longer medicated.
Mary
But as I have said many times...my sober alcoholic son said if they were a-holes as drunks, when they get sober they are just sober a-holes....
I do think that due to working his 12 step program and then getting balanced enough in life to not be so dependent on it daily, my kid is now less mentally unbalanced than he has ever been since about 2nd grade. He worked hard to get there, and although I may not love everything he does, he does it sober and with a grateful heart....so there is my statistic of one, somebody who got healthier in mind, body and spirit.
people who don't work the program to get better? they are just working the program to get whatever they can for free. No work? no gains, no improvements.
As for your sister, its her life, haven't heard of any drugs for stopping meth, but did read where sometimes a benzo like valium or xanax may help with depression, but it is her life and she has to get clean her way or not. The choice is still hers. Many people stop very slowly only a very small number stop cold turkey and never go back.