Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
So my sister, went to rehab for a total of a day and was able to get her supplier to pick her up and get her out of there. In the process of this my parents call me to tell me and they can't find her. I naturally being the older sister called her friends to get a phone number of where I can reach her. Guess who the enemy is? Yup me. i am a horrible sister because I talked to her Ex friend to get a phone number. Of course a massive fight followed. Bit my tongue then finally lost my cool. I am just done. I understand that she is sick and has an addiction problem, but in the meantime I don't deserve to be treated like crap for looking out and letting her know how much I care. I don't feel like getting taken out by the path of her destruction and choices. I am really angry and moreso I am disgusted. Brought up in a loving family and sourrounding and throws it was due to a needle. I wish there was lower than rock bottom so she could hit and, and get a real slap of reality. You would think having your BF die in front of you would do it. not in thios case. Today i hate my sister and i don't feel guilty about it.
You need to detach from your sister. There is nothing you can do to make her better. She has to want it for herself. She doesn't want to get better right now. You have no control over her actions. You have no control over her addiction. It's a horrible feeling of helplessness, I know. Us non-addicts, seem to be the ones who get hurt the most by our addicts choices.
Remember that it's not your sister who's doing all of this. It's the addiction. It's ok to hate your sister the addict. Just remember to love your sister the person. They are different people. She's going to need love when she finds her bottom. But keep in mind that there is nothing you can do to fix her.
There is nothing you can do. Arguing with an addict is useless...
And I think it is ok to be mad at the situation...and sad for the loss of ther person, a worried for your parents. These situations suck- but she made her choice.
You have no control in the situation. Now take a deep breath and resolve to handle it differently next time...remember that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
the anger you have is only bondage that will hold you down,,,, from living a happy life,,, let it go,,, being angry is not going to change anything... the addicit will still use,,,, let it go,,,,, no one know why,,, and addicit choices a drug, before there loving family,, that's why it's called a disease,,,,, if there was one sec,, before they used that drug we could stop them,,,,, trust me I would,,,, before an addicit actually uses,, there is a moment, where they have freedom of choice,,,,, drugs is only the symptom of the addicition,,,
you have every right to feel the way you do,,,,, and keep venting to us,, get it out,,,,,
but don't let the devil win,,, holding on to bondage, such as ( hate) will only keep you prisoner,,,, be strong fight satan( don't let the addiciton,, become your obsession)
praying for you sisiter
kim
I know in my alcoholism, those first steps were the most difficult to take. I thank God for my patient-praying family gave me my space and allowed me to find my time to become willing
Wild World - Keep the Faith (KtF) GiA God is Awesome
pray for her - I too will pray for "Elli's sis"
write back soon
a
It's been almost two years since I last saw him. I haven't spoken to him over the phone more that 4-5 times all this time.
It's better this way.
http://www.spiritualriver.com/how-can-i-help-an-alcoholic-or-drug-addict-specific-things-you-can-do-to-help/