Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I am really losing hope that my husband will ever become sober or drug free and now that my son is getting older he is going to understand the disease more and more.
I am between a rock and a hard place right now because I don't know what to do next.
I am trying to get better for myself and my son by attending Al-anon meetings when I can and I have contacted a therapist that I will hopefully start seeing next week.
The problem is that my family is somewhat unaware of everything that goes on here and I am too embarrassed to tell them the whole truth. But, again, now that my son is getting older I am sure he will start talking about it even to my parents.
My husband is back on pills due to a minor injury but is now able to get them from the doctor as well as the streets. He has convinced himself that he needs them for the pain, but I know it is more than that.
I don't want to be with him anymore, but he will not leave and the house is in his name unfortunately. I am going to look into getting my name on the house as well, but in the mean time I really have no place to go with my son.
Also, my son is experiencing his own issues with anxiety, OCD and some other things that makes it even harder to do anything, because I know it could potentially harm him in the long run. So, if I stay it is hurting all of us and if I go it will hurt all of us. I don't know what is better, I know I can't make a real decision until I get stronger, but we have been through this once before, and I don't think I can go through it again.
My husband needs help and will not admit it or get it. He thinks he knows what he is doing and can handle anything. I am dealing with my son on my own as my husband is mostly unaware of what is going on with him. I am taking my son to a specialist on Monday and my husband does not even know - because I know he would be against it, and I can't take a chance of letting him know and him trying to stop me - so I am doing it behind his back.
I never expected my life to be this way, I am not a stupid person, just weak and unable to stand up for myself. I am really hoping the therapist can help me get better.
Coming here has also helped and I really just needed to vent today.
Thanks for reading my long post :)
I am between a rock and a hard place right now because I don't know what to do next.
I am trying to get better for myself and my son by attending Al-anon meetings when I can and I have contacted a therapist that I will hopefully start seeing next week.
The problem is that my family is somewhat unaware of everything that goes on here and I am too embarrassed to tell them the whole truth. But, again, now that my son is getting older I am sure he will start talking about it even to my parents.
My husband is back on pills due to a minor injury but is now able to get them from the doctor as well as the streets. He has convinced himself that he needs them for the pain, but I know it is more than that.
I don't want to be with him anymore, but he will not leave and the house is in his name unfortunately. I am going to look into getting my name on the house as well, but in the mean time I really have no place to go with my son.
Also, my son is experiencing his own issues with anxiety, OCD and some other things that makes it even harder to do anything, because I know it could potentially harm him in the long run. So, if I stay it is hurting all of us and if I go it will hurt all of us. I don't know what is better, I know I can't make a real decision until I get stronger, but we have been through this once before, and I don't think I can go through it again.
My husband needs help and will not admit it or get it. He thinks he knows what he is doing and can handle anything. I am dealing with my son on my own as my husband is mostly unaware of what is going on with him. I am taking my son to a specialist on Monday and my husband does not even know - because I know he would be against it, and I can't take a chance of letting him know and him trying to stop me - so I am doing it behind his back.
I never expected my life to be this way, I am not a stupid person, just weak and unable to stand up for myself. I am really hoping the therapist can help me get better.
Coming here has also helped and I really just needed to vent today.
Thanks for reading my long post :)
Also do get your name on the house. My daughter works for a attorney and on one divorce case wife's name wasn't on the house and in the divorce this poor woman who had been married for 24 yrs got very little. Her husband had been smart (he is a attorney) and put the house in the his mothers name years ago. Talk to a attorney to see what your rights are.
It does get better, I promise.
Regarding your husband and is alcohol/pills , I understand I am in a similar situation. If you leave and struggle will you have still have your dignity and self respect ,and eventually peace of mind intact. I understand the sacrifices you will have to make , I too have to make sacrifices due to my hubby's addiction.
In the beginning I was just like you , embarrased because of the stigma related to addictions, Addictions dont make people any less than human (although their behaviors are amazing), addictions only make them weak while they are using.
The people that are my true friennds know my situation. People who cant help you by listening or otherwise dont deserve to know your struggles in my oppinion, You need to find a nonjudgemental ear wherever you can find one.
Your hubby sounds like mine, in the sense that he was fine in his highest state of addiction as long as I was isolated. As soon as I brought light to the situation he became embarrassed. His embarrassment at least forced him to admit he had a problem and that is we are. You have friends here who know your struggle and will not judge you for your decisions because we know that we are already hard enough on ourselves.
Check them out sometime... they are changing my life!