Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I really don't know what to do...
i don't know if my fiance' just doesn't love me anymore, or if i did something...
we have been together for 5 years, living together for 3 years...and he is just so distant...
we don't have physical or verbally abusive fights or anything...
but we do argue alot about money...we just see things very differently...and he thinks he is always right...(wrong!!!)
sometimes i think he resents me...i love him unconditionally...with all his faults, his mistakes, his good , his bad...even his addiction...and i think he is only here because he doesn't want to be responsible for hurting me...
he doesn't realize that him being here unwillingly is just as painful as if he wasn't here...
i cried myself to sleep last night because he rejected me again...before sunday, we hadn't been intimate in over a month...i'm really sorry but that is one of the things i miss most...
can anyone tell me what its like to have a relationship with an addict...or how to have a relationshiop with an addict...something, anything....
i love him so much that i would give my life for him...but i just don't think he feels the same way...anymore...
he's not using, he's not cheating, he's just not plugged in to us...and i don't know what to do...
i've considered asking him to leave, but i'm also selfish for myself...but then again...i think i would rather live without him, than with him if he doesn't want to be here...but then again...he keeps 'saying' that he want's to be here, and if he didn't he wouldn't be...but he's so not here...i'm sorry, i'm rambling, but i don't know what to do...i feel so conflicted, confused, alone...
i don't know if my fiance' just doesn't love me anymore, or if i did something...
we have been together for 5 years, living together for 3 years...and he is just so distant...
we don't have physical or verbally abusive fights or anything...
but we do argue alot about money...we just see things very differently...and he thinks he is always right...(wrong!!!)
sometimes i think he resents me...i love him unconditionally...with all his faults, his mistakes, his good , his bad...even his addiction...and i think he is only here because he doesn't want to be responsible for hurting me...
he doesn't realize that him being here unwillingly is just as painful as if he wasn't here...
i cried myself to sleep last night because he rejected me again...before sunday, we hadn't been intimate in over a month...i'm really sorry but that is one of the things i miss most...
can anyone tell me what its like to have a relationship with an addict...or how to have a relationshiop with an addict...something, anything....
i love him so much that i would give my life for him...but i just don't think he feels the same way...anymore...
he's not using, he's not cheating, he's just not plugged in to us...and i don't know what to do...
i've considered asking him to leave, but i'm also selfish for myself...but then again...i think i would rather live without him, than with him if he doesn't want to be here...but then again...he keeps 'saying' that he want's to be here, and if he didn't he wouldn't be...but he's so not here...i'm sorry, i'm rambling, but i don't know what to do...i feel so conflicted, confused, alone...
Get involved in your life outside of the relationship too, and do things in other areas to help fill your needs and make you feel more fulfilled and happier - friendships, support groups, and DS is a great start.
It's easy to get so wrapped up with what our partners want and what their doing that we forget to take care of ourselves. Find ways to make yourself feel better, outside of how he's acting.
I hope this helps. Take care.