Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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hopingforsunnydays 03/14/2014

I woke up Sunday morning, got on FB and my son's 1st ex gf (the one I WISHED he'd stayed with) sent me a message to let me know that my son's old GF, the one he started doing heroin with, died of an overdose overnight. I was floored.

I won't lie, I never liked this girl. It's a long story of nasty things she would do and the disrespect she had even in my own home. She was manipulative and mean.

Sadly she left a 2 year old behind with no Mother now.

I've talked to my son, which is few and far between these days, he is hurting, sad for her, but now moving in with his birth father and hoping this will be the change he needs to get the help and get better.

Someone posted a pic of 4 of these kids, in that pic, two are dead of OD's and the other two living, one being my son. It hit me sideways. Each one of them has done H, they are struggling with addiction and the yoyo effect of trying to get better....

I feel bad for those she left behind to pick up the pieces and carry that 'what if' guilt that I'm sure alot will be feeling now.

This whole thing is now epidemic, and sickens me. I pray that this girl will become the angel to help those she use to do all this with, break free from it and live.

I pray for all these folks living with addiction....and for us that watch our loved ones suffer.

jainlor 03/14/2014

so sad because they are young and there is help out there for them. praying this will be a wake up call for the others and they will get help
wishing your son strength in the days ahead

blueviolet725 03/14/2014

A terrible waste of so many lives. I hope this helps motivate your son to keep trying to get healthy and well.

patnard 03/14/2014

I've said this many times before I HATE THIS WORLD OF ADDICTION, to many lives are lost. I will be thinking of your son, hoping he stays strong. Prayers going your way!!

pinkpony66 03/15/2014

The od are increasing daily. Some potent shit coming in this country and its scary. Addicts want to keep up with their best high and do they will keep going on whatever gets them there. Sadly there is only one way with heroin and that's down. I hope and pray that all of our loved ones get out of this hell.

joenick1961 03/15/2014

Hopefully something good comes out of this tragic situation. It is so difficult on all side, the person addicted to the drugs and the families being destroyed watching it all unfold. I pray for us all.....

donna7455 03/16/2014

This is so sad.

Your post really made me think. I also have someone that I have a strong dislike for because of the horrible things that he has done because of his addiction. I have banned him from our house, blocked his phone number and made it clear to him that I never want to see or hear from him again. On Saturday he asked my son if he could come to our house because he was going through withdrawal and thinking of getting clean. My response was "absolutely not". He actually was serious and checked in to the hospital for detox from heroin and benzos. He called my son and wanted his advice about in patient rehab, where he is starting this week.

Your post made me re-consider. I know that addiction completely changes a person and makes them behave very badly. I don't know what the sober person is like. I had my son tell him that I support his attempt to get sober and wish him well. I even passed on some advice of my own. It also made me feel terrific to hear my son sincerely trying to help him to get off drugs.

So, your comment about her being an angel rings true. I think God will judge her based on the person she was before she started down this path.

GMaWilli 03/17/2014

I think God judges us based on whether or not we embrace the sacrifice of his son, but I know that's a whole different thread. I have 2 adult heroin addicted kids who have been struggling with this demon for 5-8 years, 5 for the younger, 8 for the older. They have both lost so many friends to this monster, yet they still haven't found their way out & i fear for both of their lives. They have both lost custody of their little ones, yet they still haven't found their way out. All i can do is continue praying for their recovery, after I tuck their children into bed at night, after I wipe their children's tears away because they miss their mommies.....it's gut wrenching.

hopingforsunnydays 03/21/2014

Donna: My son had seen her about 4 months ago, she called, desperate for a ride, he and his current gf went to her 'aid'. When they got there she was high and had benzos that she took when she got into his car, he was telling her NOT to, but she did and moments into the ride, she passed out and stopped breathing, he pulled over, did CPR on her, the gf called 911, the ambulance came, she had died and the ER's got her going again and brought her to the local hospital, he and the gf stayed there until someone arrived. Sadly she did not stop her course of self destruction.

Don't feel badly about turning him away. I would've done that same thing if I had been in your shoes. But gladly he is rehab....so don't beat yourself up, we do enough of that with our own addicts.

hopingforsunnydays 03/21/2014

AND if this wasn't enough, I get a FB message from someone I worked with before we moved. She was asking about my son, I said he was doing 'okay', I saw her type, then stop, then type, I had this AWFUL feeling of panic, like a bomb was going to be dropped. It did. She said she was glad to hear that as there was a rumor going around that store that my son, too, had sadly succumb to the same fate as his ex-gf two days prior, which was the last time I heard from my son and was trying to reach him, nothing on FB, lvm no return calls....my heart went into panic mode until I looked and saw him online and sent him a FB message, he replied...he called...It was one of his 'old' friends starting this rumor, which I put a squash on, but I have to say, my heart stopped beating and I was sick to my stomach for days after. If I was closer to my old home, I may have gone over to the idiots house that was spreading the rumors and beat the crap out of him. ARG! People can sometimes really suck!

Jeshua333 03/23/2014

I have been listening to Russel Brand on youtube. Ex heroin, crack ...whatever he could get his hands on addict. Clean for years now. And talking with anyone whi will listen about the best ways to help addicts.
I'm new here and wish I had known about this group years ago.
I send love, healing, peace and strength to all of you here, and to our addicted loved ones.
God bless

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