Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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macksbaby 02/25/2012

My addict is working on 1 week clean. Today he was blowing up my phone with texts. Apologizing over and over for all the hurt he caused me. Apologizing for being such a prick. Apologizing for the drugs. Apologizing for everything. And then he started to declare his love. Oh boy....

I'm seeing things a lot clearer now than when I first found out about the heroin. I understand a lot more. My response to him today was, Get clean. Prove to me that you can get clean, stay clean. Don't just tell me you're doing it. Actually do it. That's what you need to do right now.

After all the pain he has caused me, I still love the dumb-ass. But I'm not ready to be near him yet. He's got some work to do.

deleted_user 02/25/2012

Glad you are standing your ground!

macksbaby 02/25/2012

What choice do I have? If I take him back right now it just gives him permission to walk all over me again. And frankly, I like me too much to let him treat me like that. He needs to get clean first. He needs to stay clean before I could even consider taking him back. He does that, then I'll think about it. But I'm in no rush. I do love him. I always will. And I hope he finds some peace in his life. But right now, this is how it has to be.

kimpalmer 02/26/2012

you are being very strong, and inspiration for others. Good job macksbaby.

hopingforsunnydays 02/26/2012

My Mom and Dad use to ALWAYS say:

"you can talk the talk, but you need to WALK THE WALK!'

That has always stuck in my head LOL....

I applaud you Macksbaby, stay strong! Believe your gut, but keep your heart warm as well.

Of course you still love him, but doing it at a distance isn't a bad thing, maybe knowing he needs to work at getting better in order to get closer to you, this will help him....be that 'brass ring' waiting for him to get to. ;O).....

katrinka 02/26/2012

Just because they are blowing up your phone apologizing and declaring their love doesn't mean they really have been clean. I know that ex did that for years and I figured out his cycle and he really had been using and was at the point of I will not use, I am a fool, I had it so good and I blew it. So we never know when they are telling the truth or not.
I agree you need to walk the walk not just give lip service.

macksbaby 02/26/2012

I agree. Words are meaningless. He's told me too many lies. It's time he shows me. And even then I'll be cautious. He's such a dumb-ass.

cardinal39 02/26/2012

I would deffintly say,,,,Girl look at where you came in a week,,, proud of you,,,,,Actions to speak louder then words,,, you detach from the addicit,,, and be in love with the person,( in your case "dumbass",,,) we all have work to do,,, keep looking forward,, one step at a time

deleted_user 02/27/2012

I know you love him but right now you are loving yourself more. I give you a big high five. See, being strong is empowering hu? Good for you girl!!!!

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