Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
expectations can not be put on others, only we can expect what we want. We become so consumed with what our addicits "should" do,, that we get lost......
New assignment......
tell what expectations we have on ourselves,, what we want... only rule,, never mention the addicit....
My expectation for myself, is to get to a place, where I feel I have total contol of my life, where I expel happiness, and not expect it.. when I reach out to someone, and they smile, and say thanks,, when I go to work, and put all my effort, and can walk away without someone telling me I did a good job,, knowing I did..when wake up,, and see appreciate what I have, and not what I assume I need..... stand up and be proud of where I am, and not feel guilt of where I was.... to go to bed at night,,, and tell myself what a great person I am.
doing this,, give us a sense of what great people we really are, even when are surroundings seem dark,, at the end there is always light,, just keep focus,,, it's there.
hugs,
Kim
New assignment......
tell what expectations we have on ourselves,, what we want... only rule,, never mention the addicit....
My expectation for myself, is to get to a place, where I feel I have total contol of my life, where I expel happiness, and not expect it.. when I reach out to someone, and they smile, and say thanks,, when I go to work, and put all my effort, and can walk away without someone telling me I did a good job,, knowing I did..when wake up,, and see appreciate what I have, and not what I assume I need..... stand up and be proud of where I am, and not feel guilt of where I was.... to go to bed at night,,, and tell myself what a great person I am.
doing this,, give us a sense of what great people we really are, even when are surroundings seem dark,, at the end there is always light,, just keep focus,,, it's there.
hugs,
Kim
My expectation is to myself. To make sure I am getting what I need out of this one life that God has given me. To make sure I am taking care of myself so I can live a long and healthy life and set a good example for my kids. To be a role model for my family that addiction does not need to ruin our lives that we can manage it and learn to live with it and still have joyful, productive lives because we all deserve that.
It didn't come easily or all at once, and I know I am still growing and learning as fast as I can, but I am celebrating reaching beyond my expectations today.
To let go of the past and try to live in the moment. Improve my friendships, and spend more time with my sister and cousins. Enjoy my only daughter and teach her to be strong and love herself. Try to reconnect with the hubby, who always seems to come last. Oh and I expect I better get back to cleaning my poor house that I have neglected the last few weeks, haha
MJ
to learn patience again, seems I have lost that in the past week with my work and my ee's, not good, so I need to regroup myself on that one and take a breath instead of spinning.
To learn to relax: Spa day tomorrow 2 1/2 hours of ME TIME...feel bad for the person doing my pedi though LOL...definate frodo feet.
To start looking more heavily for a full time job or something with more hours (hubby doesn't know it but I'm semi-retiring lol)...so I would like about 25-30 hours during the day, sick of the 'night closing shift' crap.
To get out and do STUFF: Stop hanging in this room on the internet and playing online bingo lol go OUT and enjoy the weather and the day and my friends in PERSON.
To make a list of places I want to go and GO THERE!: Not like crazy island vacations, but local attractions I always SAY I want to go to, but actually GO....
To start getting some exercise in per day...maybe take a morning walk?
to choose joy
To know That I can have peace... It has been given by Jesus
To live in the moment
To try and relax
To remember to tell those in my life just how much they mean to me
You all mean soooo much to me!!!
to go to the spa for 2 1/2 hours, get all the tension out, feet/hands looking good, come home, relax, and not have ANY stress....so....THAT being said, i will save it for when my home returns to being MY home again. Something for ME to look forward to!
Just for today, I will let go of worry.
Today I will count my many Blessings.
Today I will do my work honestly (with intention)..
Today I will be Kind to every Living Creature."
Now that I wrote this..... I have to do it!!!! lol
Thanks for the inspiration.