Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
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Posted on 03/14/12, 05:58 pm
thought I would share this with all of you
we are nt responsible for the illness or actions of others or the result of those actions
we become aware that we are obsessed with another"s behavior and as we learn to let go we find that we can live our own lives in a more manageable, happier and consttuctive way
we let our lives be guided by a power greater than ourselves and we release them with love and cease trying to change them. We admit we cannot control someone else"s life
Not to allow ourselves to be manipulated or controlled by another person
not to accept others responsibilities
not to stand in the way to prevent a crisis
not to provoke a crisis
not to make excuses, cover up or take the blame for others
we care enough not to care
not to be personally offended by the addicit. We can look past the drugs and see another human bing who has the disease called addicition which is caused by drugs.. We learn compassion.
Detaching ourselves is niether kind nor unkind. It is a simple way of beginning our own recovery program, and allows us to recover from the devastating effects that living with the disease of addicition has had on our own lives.
we beging to create a positive chain of reactions which allows us to make intelligent and constructive decisions.
Addiction is an illness, It is a physical, mental and spirtual disease that affects every area of life. It can be areested but never cured. The addicts inability to control their use of drugs is a symptom of the disease of addiciton. Even when they know what will happen when the take the first drink, pill or fix, thew will do so. this is the "insanity" we speak of in regard to this diseasee.. Only complete abstinence from the use of durgs, can arrest this disease.. No one can preven the addicit's use of the drug, or alchol,,When we accept that the addcition is a disease, and that we are powerlesswover it, we become ready
Posted on 03/14/12, 05:58 pm
thought I would share this with all of you
we are nt responsible for the illness or actions of others or the result of those actions
we become aware that we are obsessed with another"s behavior and as we learn to let go we find that we can live our own lives in a more manageable, happier and consttuctive way
we let our lives be guided by a power greater than ourselves and we release them with love and cease trying to change them. We admit we cannot control someone else"s life
Not to allow ourselves to be manipulated or controlled by another person
not to accept others responsibilities
not to stand in the way to prevent a crisis
not to provoke a crisis
not to make excuses, cover up or take the blame for others
we care enough not to care
not to be personally offended by the addicit. We can look past the drugs and see another human bing who has the disease called addicition which is caused by drugs.. We learn compassion.
Detaching ourselves is niether kind nor unkind. It is a simple way of beginning our own recovery program, and allows us to recover from the devastating effects that living with the disease of addicition has had on our own lives.
we beging to create a positive chain of reactions which allows us to make intelligent and constructive decisions.
Addiction is an illness, It is a physical, mental and spirtual disease that affects every area of life. It can be areested but never cured. The addicts inability to control their use of drugs is a symptom of the disease of addiciton. Even when they know what will happen when the take the first drink, pill or fix, thew will do so. this is the "insanity" we speak of in regard to this diseasee.. Only complete abstinence from the use of durgs, can arrest this disease.. No one can preven the addicit's use of the drug, or alchol,,When we accept that the addcition is a disease, and that we are powerlesswover it, we become ready
Marge,, your right your son is 24 years old,, either do it or don't,,, shoot at 24 I was a mom of two, and a wife,,,, you can't make them, fix them,, or blame yourself for their drug use,,,,,, yes addicition is a disease,, but they do have a "free" choice to use or not to use.....
through this whole nightmare,, I'm in my own recovery,,,, I've learned that being a good mom or wife,, ect,,, is first loving myself, and putting myself before anyone,,, i've learned so much about who I am,, and what I'm cable of,,, it's ok,, to just simply say NO
welcome to this site,, it is an amazing place to vent, get good adivce, and someitmes hear things we don't always want to hear,,,, this has been my life line,,,,,
I know what your feeling, I know the daily let downs,, and just remember to take care of you,,,,,
hugs,
kim
I try to take care of myself so I may take care of my other children. I want them to have a healthy normal childhood so I have to stay strong for them but there are times when I do secretly fall apart.... I just joined this site yesterday but I know already it is going to help me somehow. Kim thanks for taking the time to welcome me. I hope your daughter gets better. I know what its like to have a child in Jail and it is a relief. She is off the streets and away from the evils.Maybe she will get some clarity and be able to get some control back in her life when she gets out. Stay strong!
Margaret