Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
So, my son (opiate/hallucinogens/pot addict) has a new relationship he had gotten into earlier in the year, she was a 'friend' but has become more.
I've met her, she is adorable, a little 'different' and VERY VERY THIN! She has an eating disorder and is in treatment as I write, she is adorable and has soooo many issues. And so does HE!
This is NOT the 1st of the kind, he gravitates to the 'needy' girls/women....the other was accepting of his addictions and had the same issues, so his co-dependent partner. SHE is now pregnant with some other guys baby, my son broke off w/her back in April last year and she became pregnant shortly after. Rumor has it she is still shooting while she is pregnant. ICK! Her family is a MESS as well.
So now this new one. I was TRYING to talk to him about this as when he posts about 'I'm tripping my B*lls off", I then see she is being admitted back into treatment....it seems his 'downfalls' push her back to not eating. This last spell she didn't eat for 3 days. This is NOT healthy for her. HE is not healthy for her and I've TRIED to explain this to him and he just ignores or changes the subject. I KNOW it is none of my business, but I worry about this young girl.
Why can't he find someone who lifts him up? Who makes him feel good about himself?
He is so good looking, has an absolute wonderful smile, boyish ashton kutcher type charms, why does he gravitate toward these girls with 'issues' like this? I keep telling him to hang around with people outside his 'circle' and he did and this is what he has met.
It just drives me crazy.
I've met her, she is adorable, a little 'different' and VERY VERY THIN! She has an eating disorder and is in treatment as I write, she is adorable and has soooo many issues. And so does HE!
This is NOT the 1st of the kind, he gravitates to the 'needy' girls/women....the other was accepting of his addictions and had the same issues, so his co-dependent partner. SHE is now pregnant with some other guys baby, my son broke off w/her back in April last year and she became pregnant shortly after. Rumor has it she is still shooting while she is pregnant. ICK! Her family is a MESS as well.
So now this new one. I was TRYING to talk to him about this as when he posts about 'I'm tripping my B*lls off", I then see she is being admitted back into treatment....it seems his 'downfalls' push her back to not eating. This last spell she didn't eat for 3 days. This is NOT healthy for her. HE is not healthy for her and I've TRIED to explain this to him and he just ignores or changes the subject. I KNOW it is none of my business, but I worry about this young girl.
Why can't he find someone who lifts him up? Who makes him feel good about himself?
He is so good looking, has an absolute wonderful smile, boyish ashton kutcher type charms, why does he gravitate toward these girls with 'issues' like this? I keep telling him to hang around with people outside his 'circle' and he did and this is what he has met.
It just drives me crazy.
Hang in there,,,,,try not giving your opinion
As much as I had a problem with her substance abuse, I think she had more of a problem with me not being a "partier" (PC word for addict). She would constantly accuse her of judging her, even though I never said a single thing condemning her use. I did make remarks about her behavior when stoned or drunk, but never about the drug use itself. I think by the end of the relationship, this was really gnawing at her as she was realizing that she would have to quit for the relationship to continue - and she just couldn't do it - she was addicted to the lifestyle, and addicted to the drug.
Addicts want someone to enable and validate their use. Your son won't want to be around women who lift him up until he is ready to quit. Nobody else can change him.