Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
So, I know a lot of you may think that video game addiction isn't a real thing, but please hear me out.
My boyfriend spends all day everyday (when not at work) on his computer playing various video games. If for whatever reason he gets pulled away from them when its not necessary in his eyes, he gets very irritable, to the point where he shuts down on me. On top of this, he is on the Aspergers scale (not particularly high, but enough for you to notice) and this makes it impossible to talk to him because he always has a perfect logical answer for everything. I've tried telling him how it makes me feel etc, but every time i do he thinks its because I'm jealous, not because I care.
I need to know how to get through to him and get him to see he has a problem. I'm running out of ideas.
My boyfriend spends all day everyday (when not at work) on his computer playing various video games. If for whatever reason he gets pulled away from them when its not necessary in his eyes, he gets very irritable, to the point where he shuts down on me. On top of this, he is on the Aspergers scale (not particularly high, but enough for you to notice) and this makes it impossible to talk to him because he always has a perfect logical answer for everything. I've tried telling him how it makes me feel etc, but every time i do he thinks its because I'm jealous, not because I care.
I need to know how to get through to him and get him to see he has a problem. I'm running out of ideas.
My daughter was married to a man and he quit his job to stay home and play video games. She was just finishing grad school.
He said if they ever needed money, he would enter tournaments, or play on line poker...or do mixed marshal arts fighting...(yeah, I could have taken him!)
It is like any other addiction...a numbing oneself to not feel.
And just like any other addiction, if he does not see a problem, he will not be willing to change.
Short of a power outage, or planned date nights away from the TV...I have no suggestions except to take care of yourself and go off and have a life and see if he notices.
BTW, my daughter is no longer married to him.
Why do you stay with this boyfriend? I'm not saying he has a problem. He obviously has Aspergers...and that is a health/brain thing...and his types usually do escape to this type of world.
To me it just sounds like he is not the right boyfriend for you. You can't change him. He needs to be happy and so do you. When we are in relationships we are supposed to bring out the best in each other and if we can't its not the right relationship.
He is shutting down on you. He is stuck on the video games. He isn't going to change. So to me you have two choices. Adapt to it and love him as he is or #2 end the relationship. SO MUCH EASIER said than done to end a relationship believe me I know.
But, if that is what is determined to be the best thing to do..no matter how hard it is....you have to do it for yourself and for him.
You don't sound happy and he doesn't sound happy when he is shut off of the VGs. My goal is to be happy...and if I have to go thru some tough times to get there (i.e....leave my b/f)...than I will do it. Life is short...very short.