It has now been 3 nights 4 days that my husband and I split up. We are speaking daily and we are doing our best to work things through. As hard as it has been I have maintained my strength and not asked him to come home. He has begged and he has cried but this time I told him it is simply not enough. He has to make a choice, either the bottle or his family. Ive asked him to develop his own strategy on what its going to take to defeat the bottle because obviously I have failed in my approach to control him. Perhaps giving him the authority might result in a better outcome. It is obvious that I am not interested in losing my marriage. I believe in marriage and I believe in those vows.... till death do us part. But I just cannot live with the constant worry and fear that comes with alcoholism. I told him that he must understand that its not my lack of love for him that has separated us because he is and always will be THE ONE, but I have to love myself too and living in a toxic environment is not how I choose to live. Therefore I am left with no option other than to remove what is toxic, which is him and that bottle. I am praying that he will find his strength and make the right decision to stop drinking so that we can continue our lives in a healthy and loving environment. I ask for your prayers Daily Strength Family! WE surely do need it right now!