Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
My alcoholic son is coming (I think) Christmas Eve. I am glad that he is coming and I think he may be sober not really sure.
My concern is that I sometimes feel worse after seeing him. Not sure why that is and I don't want to have a bad Christmas day. Not so much for myself but the rest of my family. I get so sad after seeing him some times.
My son is such a great person but I have not seen that kid for a long time.
He is 21 and has become distant since the drinking become a big problem in his life. Then he got into a unhealthy relationship with a 17 year old who has an addict Mom. They try to keep him away form his family. It is just all such a mess.
Any words of wisdom to get through the next few days-thanks
My concern is that I sometimes feel worse after seeing him. Not sure why that is and I don't want to have a bad Christmas day. Not so much for myself but the rest of my family. I get so sad after seeing him some times.
My son is such a great person but I have not seen that kid for a long time.
He is 21 and has become distant since the drinking become a big problem in his life. Then he got into a unhealthy relationship with a 17 year old who has an addict Mom. They try to keep him away form his family. It is just all such a mess.
Any words of wisdom to get through the next few days-thanks
If you are sad, after seeing him....just remember that you will have plenty of time to be sad later....another day.
don't waste the good times with others because of sadness over his problems, that just gives the addiction more power.
I felt sad everytime I had to say goodbye, because I never knew if I would see him again.
I do understand. It is a parental thing.
and I don't buy the excuse of his relationship...because every addict has an excuse...this crap just happens. It is not a choice to become addicted, but it is a choice to experiment that first few times...and maybe there are genetic things too....but there are plenty of people that have bad things happen and they don't all become addicts. I figured that out for myself, and it helped me look more objectively and detached from my son. It helped me not enable....so I am sharing that idea with you today.....for another day- after holiday time.
hug him tight and tell him you love him. feed him well and pray for him...then go on to the next person in your life who deserves just as much attention and love....and take care of YOU....Merry Christmas.
He left a box in our truck and we have texted and called a few times since Christmas Eve and no response. So of course worried that he is drinking. But this morning I was thinking about it all and thought if I find out he is drinking what could I do? NOTHING :(
The last time we talked with him things were fine so I guess I just hold o to that??
the rest is out of our control